Why I'm a 31M trying to reboot

Hi all,

A little over a week ago a colleague at work and I talked about the benefits of not jerking off. Mainly increased energy and sexual transmutation. It was about a 3 min conversation.

So that night I decided to go without my nightly ritual of fapping. And again the next morning... it's been 7 days without P or M and I'm finding this fun and interesting.

I found this forum after some research and here I am.

I've done a lot of reading in the past 24 hours. Here are my beliefs, thoughts and comments about the whole NoFap thing and my planned involvement:

1) Porn is great. I'm not in the "Porn is the root of all evil" camp by any stretch. Nope. Do I think it's an unmitigated good? Hell naw - there's a lot of issues with it, that's for sure. But I'm not ready to buy into the talk I see online about it being this huge problem in the world in and of itself. There's some pretty simplistic folk wisdom going around in this regards and I'm not buying in.

2) I've had a lot of relationships with women, so a lot of the advice for virginal gamers who spend >10 hours a week on porn doesn't really apply to me. I also spend probably 6-7 hours a week on porn max, probably more around the 3.5 hours a week level.

3) 90% of the porn I've watched is femdom. For those of you unfamiliar with the genre that's videos of women dominating men. My most recent relationships have had elements of this in them. Not mainstream by most standards but for the most part that answers the question of whether or not I find porn encourages me to view women as subservient or in need of domination by a man.

4) There's a lot of idealized talk of how women want a deeper, more connection sexual experience. This sounds as misguided to me as any instance where a group of guys sit around and determine what women "really want". Some women I've encountered want something deeper. Others want to be completely objectified. Human sexuality is extremely complex when you get down to it. So I'm not buying into an idealized notion of women.

5) A lot of sites around reducing porn usage have a religious agenda lying beneath them that's well hidden. That's super disappointing because there's an agenda there that's going to influence what data is/isn't presented and how it's interpreted.

6) I'm doing this because porn has been a part of my life for 12 years. I have a hard time imagining not using it. So I want to try not using it for a while to see what the effects are. I also think that, on some level, it will change how I interact with women. I'm interested in finding out from my female friends if they perceive any difference in me. I also think I'll have more energy doing a PM reboot. I'm open to never using P again (unless it's with a partner). M will definitely be something I'll do again after my reboot. And O with a partner is on the cards.

That's it from now. I'm a metrics person so looking forward to using the counter on this website to measure progress. Still working out my reboot goal.