Why is that I know the negatives of P but continue to relapse?

hy QuiggyG,

you adressing a few good points here.

frist things first: congrats on making it to 13 days - that's definitely sth and an accomplishment to build on. just imagine you would only relapse every 2w, that would be a pretty good thing for the whole year (of course, depending where you started, but overall definitely sth).

why are you falling back despite so many reasonable facts that speak against it?
1) watching porn is far from being a reasonable thing to do. think about it. it has nth to do with reason and your cognitive brain. BUT it speaks to your primal brain, your animalic instincts. when they kick in, there aint no place for reason.
for those situations, you need an emergency plan. many of this was written elsewhere already so I am not getting into it. just want to stress the point that the cause for your relapse has nth to do with you knowing about the negative effects of porn addiction, or the negativity associated with the whole industry.

2) if you cannot change it, do not think too much about it. dont get me wrong: it's absolutely legit to be bothered by the negativity of the whole industry, but contemplating on it day in day out doesn't do you any good.
instead, you must shift your mindset towards more positivity. e.g. let's assume you get past 7 days next day, go and celebrate this with someone (or just yourself). treat yourself nicely for what you achieved. then set the goal for the next 7 days.
focus on what you are becoming now! instead of being preoccupied with what you were yesterday.

hope this helps!

 

Congratulations on completing ur 10+ days.......

Very well expressed written....

Good luck buddy with ur plans.....

 

Honestly people stay addicted because they are not yet ready to progress in the story, for me my life and future was looking very dim, stuck on a ship in the middle of the ocean for months and I still am really takes a toll on a person, the military is tough. Because of my pmo addiction my work ethic was trash, my motivation non existent, I got yelled at every day and I was depressed and hated life every day, I tried doing mo without the p but It does not work I discovered my problems were just as bad as if I was doing the whole thing. Than I read one of my old posts on here about how I originally rebooted 4 successful months and it filled me with great motivation, that was 27 days ago and things could not be any better. My whole life has been flipped up side down, I am filled with so much energy and confidence, I am volunteering in programs, I am getting more work done then ever before, I cannot go back. And now my answer to you, until you are at a place in your life where you cannot afford to relapse, you absolutely cannot go back to pmo, until you hit that all time low you may never have the drive to quit, because for me I cannot go back, I might as will throw myself overboard now if I was to do that again, my life has improved so much and I will not go back.

 

Knowledge is not understanding.

 

Dude, try thinking about you as somebody who can do things like writing a diary, persuing valuable goals (that will be difficult and painful to achieve), and mastering techniques from different religions. How will you feel? What would you do? Is it possible for you to do this right now?.