My partner is in reboot and has been for almost 90 days. He suffers from DE and could not O with me at all before the reboot. He also lied to me for a large part of our relationship after vowing to quit. But he has quit now and the difference is very visible. He can O from my hand and from just oral sex and quite quickly. The problem is that he still feels little to nothing during intercourse and I am not sure he ever will. As a result our sex life consists of a few minutes of penetration for me and the rest is totally focused on him and me making sure that he Os. Or sometimes it's just a hand or oral with no sex at all. He always asks if I want him to do anything but by that time he's spent and it's not enjoyable. I feel like we have gone from him using his hand to me doing it with mine but he still lacks the ability to have what I consider a shared sexual experience with me. I mean to me the reason God created intercourse as the way to baby make is because it was supposed to be mutual enjoyment. My partner has a concentration problem when he was trying to O so we made sure that he focused on himself and his O which is something he had a hard time doing when he focused so much on my needs but now the pendulum has swung the other way. I was I think initially so happy to see the changes overall that I was willing to accept them as they are or maybe I hoped that things would progress more quickly. But now I realize I want normal sex. I am getting bored with this real fast and I am starting to dread having it. I am a very sexual person with a high drive who is now starting to see sex as a chore that I want to be over because for me it's just a lot of work. I have shared this with him and he says he understands but nothing changes. It has been almost two years since I had normal sex meaning mutually satisfying intercourse with my ex and I now realize I really miss it. Not sex with another partner but sex that is in my mind normal. I know many will say that "sex" does not have to be one set way and I've tried to tell myself this but it does not help. I am just not sexually fulfilled at all. I honestly cannot see myself married to this man with this sex life. I long to have sex that is not such hard work! So men who have had this issue I am asking for your advice. How long did it take you to O from sex? Is it possible that I need to accept this status quo as my sexual fate? If so I fear I need to move on. Do you think we should make a rule that he can only O from intercourse to see if that helps? Any ladies out there with partners with this issue that can offer advice? Thanks.