Women Struggle Too..

Welcome! It's great that you and your boyfriend are working it out. I'm a newbie too: I had no idea that porn could be so devastating to relationships until recently, which is also when I decided to take positive steps. Rock on.

 

Welcome, and congrats on taking the first step.

First I just wanted to address my thoughts on addiction with men and women. I honestly don't think there is any difference, beyond we have different sexual organs. You compare any other addiction and there is no difference between men and women. The only thing is society says men are more prone to these issues, but we are all sexual beings.

I think it’s great that you have a partner who is understand and empathetic to your issue. I would say the same thing if you were a man, so I know you’re in the right place. You have a community that is very understand and will to help at any time. There are great tools, and resources to use. Just ask or search around on the forums .

One thing I know that works well for me is writing in my daily journal. Keeping myself accountable every day is important, and I take it seriously because I know I suffer from this addiction. I do a lot of other things to, but you will find out what works best for you over time. Know that it takes time, this is a marathon, not a sprint, but overtime if your committed you will notices great changes, and one day you will overcome this. Try hard to not beat yourself up. We are human, we make mistakes, and we learn from those mistakes. It’s good to look and see what you need to change, but I believe it’s not healthy to focus on the "oh man, I relapsed again, now I have to start from Zero" - this shit is toxic. Don't do this. Focus on those victories and stay positive about your changes. Celebrate your accomplishments! Set goals

And above all, stay active in the community it will help you.