You are going to be amazed by my stupidity, but please help me..

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  1. Relentless_soldier

    Relentless_soldier Fapstronaut

    Hey guys.

    Well there are some situations that I think that can only happen with me. I think I should have a degree on stupidity by now, because even I was amazed by how I continue to be such an idiot and you are going to be too.

    First thing that you need to know about this situation. I am too proud and I have a hard time forgiving people. It is a problem that I am trying to deal and with less important situations, I have been able to control it. But this one I couldn't. So, here is the story..

    I know this girl for about 8 years now, and I think she has always had a crush on me and she is probably the coolest girl I know. But when I met her, I liked another girl so I really didn't care that much about her. Then, we went to college together and we were on the same class and she still had a crush on me at the beginning as a friend of ours told me but that period was probably my worst with porn addiction, so again I couldn't care less. Then, she dated another guy and rightfully so as I clearly wasn't interested. Eventually, they broke up though.

    Then, in the beginning of 2017 we were at a party and I hooked up with another girl. She saw it and she was with another guy at the time and out of a sudden she was dancing with this guy in front of me. For the first time, I was a little jealous but after the party was over I never gave it a second thought. However, at another party at the end of the year, I finally thought to myself that I missed a great opportunity. After all, she is nice, very beautiful and well, she liked me. But I thought it was over.

    Then, this year started and we were at another party and I went there thinking about trying to hook up with her. Nevertheless, she not only pretended I didn't exist on the party but also hooked up with another dude. So, I was really jealous and angry. But I knew I had dug my own grave on the situation, so to speak, so I thought I made peace with it. The truth is I was more hurt by it than I imagined.

    So, I never saw her again until this weekend. I went to a party and I didn't know she was going to be there. I saw one of my friends and seconds later she saw me and came over to say hello. The moment I looked at her, my emotions went everywhere. I like her, but I was still angry and hurt by what happened. After a moment, we were dancing close to each other and a friend of mine, who didn't know about our ''history'' told me that she was looking at me. People who don't have a degree on stupidity would have welcomed the situation. As for me, well, I let my pride get in the way I pretended she didn't exist at the moment. I think that it is safe to say that this decision was probably the stupidiest thing I have ever done in my life. And that coming from me, is a pretty big deal as I have done many stupid things in my life.

    So, yesterday I posted a story on Instagram just to see if she would watch it. Well, she didn't watch it on her Instagram, but a few hours later she posted something similar on her which is making me think she somehow saw it.

    Rightfully so, I think I really pissed her off this time and I want to make things right. But I don't know when I will see her again and this is killing me. I don't know what to do and I don't know even if there is anything to do at this point, but I have to find a way to make things better.

    So, if anybody has any word of advice, please help me because the king of stupidity here got nothing.
  2. Jennica

    Jennica Fapstronaut

    Yup, it really is that simple.
  3. And I didn't mean that in a smart ass way at all. Talk with her, life is short and you have know each other in some fashion for years now. She might be the one for you, she might not. But you'll never know unless you talk. Don't live with regret, which you are already feeling about this, open up and talk. And start this off in the spirit of being open and honest, and keep it that way.
    I say this from the heart brother.
  4. A new day

    A new day Fapstronaut

    Any reason you are avoiding this? Commitment? Responsibility? Are you “Peter Pan”ing.

    Not sure you can do the real deal with this women yet? Don’t want to do the real deal with this woman?

    Seems like you two have a little dance going that is going no where. Might be good to sort out why with yourself and decide what you really want.

    Being wishy washy is a bad strategy.
  5. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

    Dam man, that was stupid. I at least need something to work with and with that story, I don't have very much, sorry.
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  6. Eleanor

    Eleanor Moderator Assistant Staff Member Moderator Assistant

    Why on heaven should you wait until the next party? Send her a message that you want to talk with her, invite her an ice-cream or a burger and explain to her this you have told us. I think she still likes you but move your ass out of pride and be honest to her. If she doesn't like you anymore or is doubtful, well, that is your fault. Also, tell her you were really stupid by behaving in that way, that might help her see you are sorry for real.
  7. Nugget9

    Nugget9 Fapstronaut

    You should talk to her and go out for a simple conversation and go from there. Good luck.
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  8. You'll feel even stupider next month when you're posting about the new guy she is with.

    Edited for clarification: Get in there and tell her how you feel, before you end up in a position where it's too late. The only thing stopping you is your pride.
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  9. Relentless_soldier

    Relentless_soldier Fapstronaut

    Well, thanks guys.

    You guys are obviously right. I complicated things too much and it is my responsibility to uncomplicate them. I need to talk to her and I will. I am going to be honest and hope she forgives me. I am going to do everything in my power to show her that I want to be with her and that I am really sorry. I can't get her out of my head.

    The truth is I think I actually don't deserve her and with all the things that happened, maybe I don't. But that is her decision to make and all I can do is work hard to make things right.

    Man, that was deep. Maybe I am afraid of commitment and responsibility and not only in this case. I do have many things to sort out and I have a lot of thinking to do. But this situation is easy. I have to talk to her, I can't get her out of my head. It is that simple. I like her and I have to talk to her.

    Thanks for keeping it real.
  10. Best wishes for you both.
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