You tell me how Masturbation or Fornication are "healthy" and "normal"

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by EXPONENTIALLY, Sep 7, 2019.

  1. EXPONENTIALLY

    EXPONENTIALLY Fapstronaut

    You lying DEVILS !!

    Still technically physically virgin though, hahahhahaha!
     
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  2. vxlccm

    vxlccm Fapstronaut

    EDIT: Dude? Let's have a tone on NoFap where we encourage everyone to seek out a better life :)
     
    Last edited: Sep 13, 2019
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  3. Dekk

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    If it doesn't effect your life in a negative way like -
    * Cancelling things you have planned (with your friends / family) so you'll have more time to masturbate
    * Negative effects on your sleeping habits (because you spent hours on edging / fapping)
    * Negative effects on your studies
    * Negative effects on your personality and behavior around women you find attractive and girls in general
    (acting like a weirdo and being awkward)
    * Health problems

    then you got your answer.
     
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  4. vxlccm

    vxlccm Fapstronaut

    @Dekk what about:

    * Spiritual health and eternal destiny?
     
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  5. Dekk

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    @vxlccm That's an individual thing I guess..
    Personally I don't find anything benificial for my soul or my spirit by doing nofap.

    p.s - I'm not trying to encourage anyone to watch porn or to masturbate
    I myself am on day 7 right now without pmo (trying to challenge myself)
     
  6. Vendettana

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    argh, your post makes me feel like being pro-pulsed back in my past before NoFap.
     
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  7. Dekk

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    Is that bad or good? in which way? why?
     
  8. Vendettana

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    Bad. It's because I did all these things without even seeing it or thinking it could be a problem.
     
  9. Dekk

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    When did you realise that masturbation is bad for you?
    In which ways did it harm you?
    Has anything changed since you stopped doing MO ? if so, what has changed?
    What are your beliefes about MO?
    Has anything changed in your relationships since you stopped doing MO?
    (I'm only talking about masturbation, f*** the porn industry)
     
  10. Vendettana

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    I have been masturbating since the age of 13. There was no period longer than two weeks where I did not masturbate. I believed that this is what had to be done, that the sperm kind of has to be evacuated because it would fill up and provoke I don't know what health issue. Similar to pee.
    Over the years I started loosing interest in real sex, and the fact that I did not have sex was easy to overcome by masturbating. Eventually it just became something odd that I had to do, just in order to stay healthy. I slowly had to masturbate longer and longer so I can evaculate, I had to do harder and harder, faster and faster. It also became a coping mechanism with anxiety.
    Then, I think together with Porn, I developed ED.
    I stopped masturbating because I thought this would not be ok towards my wife (I got married in may 2019).

    Since then, I have developed a much stronger interest in sex and the fact that I cannot just relieve the pressure, pushes me to achieve my goals and to actually DO something about anxiety.

    Today, I no longer believe that Masturbation is something that we should do. It might be OK when you're 13, but it surely gets wrong when you have a girlfriend and you want to become a man, take responsibilities and grow up.
    Orgasm, this it great, but only with your wife or your partner in general. Just ejaculating in a hand, that is not something that has a high esteem. I mean, look at the people that you look up to. How would this affect your opinion of them if you knew that they masturbate?
    Say something weird: We have Bruce Wayne, he is a secret hero, and every night when he comes back to the Bat Cave ,the takes of the Bat costume and masturbates... aehh...
     
  11. Dekk

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    I guess that this is why it's so hard for me to understand the idea behind nofap because I have never experienced it the way you did.
    Even when I was masturbating (and I did that on daily basis) I always wanted to experience real sex and to be in a relationship with someone.
    I never saw porn or masturbation "as a replacement".
    Same thing about anxiety -
    Whenever I felt down or depressed in my past it was never because of PMO.
    (there were other reasons like my army service, a girl that I liked who has cut me out of her life and then it was my studies at the university, some arguments with my family and etc).
    I agree with you a 100%
    Lol, I don't think that I'll ever discuss about this topic with any of my friends.
    But let's say that I wouldn't dwell on it too much.
    (unless if he is doing that while having a girlfriend and then it'd be kinda awkward)

    btw-
    I'm currently on day 10 without PMO
    and I don't think that I'll ever go back to watching porn again.
    I started to hate this industry after watching a documentary on Netflix
    (but I'm not sure about masturbation though since I'm single at the moment)
     
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  12. Vendettana

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    It's your choice. But I think, if you quit masturbation as well, you won't be single for a long time. Your hormones will push you beyond your fears, you'll take action over and over again.
     
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