Sexy outfit

how can one not trigger guys and still stay sexy. It's getting warm and I like wearing sexy things. Play with the perks of my body. But reading here I don't want to trigger men. I see here that I might trigger people in real life all the time. What's the right way

 

Not everyone is addicted to pmo. You should wear whatever you like, i doubt you will be hurting others.

 

Thanks for your support. GUYS!!. TRIGGERWARNING

I feel this is very much me to express this sexy feeling I have and using my perks and be hot. I take a lot of shit for that. But that's me!!!

 

Personally, I disagree with the whole "you should wear whatever you want" thing. I think modesty is important. I would ask yourself why you feel the need to look sexy all the time and "play with the perks of your body." It seems there's a deeper issue there. You've expressed already the fact that you like to seduce men, and that's apparently something you want to change, so why not dress more modestly? Trust me, there are plenty of things you can wear that are flattering to your body and look cute and aren't too hot in warm weather, but are also modest.

Also, I say this from personal experience of learning this myself, I feel that the need to dress provocatively and show off your body probably comes from a bit of a skewed view of self worth. Shouldn't you want people to see you as a kind person or a smart person or a funny person, or whatever other good character traits you have, rather than first seeing you as something pretty/sexy to look at? There's not much value in that. When you dress more simply, you shine through your clothes and the right kind of people with see YOU, not your clothes or your body. To me, that's better.

I know this opinion is extremely uncommon these days, but I just don't agree that women should go around wearing provocative clothes all the time. I think we have a responsibility, all humans, to help other humans, and tempting people to fall into lust because if how we are dressed is not a kind way to live, in my opinion.

I posted a whole thread about modesty in the women's section a while ago. I'll link it here if you'd like to check it out.

 

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/modesty.156565/

 

That's you? Is that how you identify yourself? See, that to me is promlematic. To be completely defined by your sexuality is not healthy at all. I think you should explore that and figure out why it is that you allow that to define you.

 

Thanks castielle. Definitely a very conservative view which I respect. I will think about what you say.
THIS BECAME MUCH LONGER THAN INTENDED. MIGHT TRIGGER TOO. NOT SURE
But I have a different theory. I think porn in a way also has a good effect. Of course it has a bad influence now as people are not able to deal with it. But I think it also normalizes a lot about the sex energy and how it is used. I think there is a transformation. I thought a lot about this. Especially when I hear the old generation talk about sec and how it was. This very conservative way is kind of sick too. I am a cheap girl. But I observe and have a deep side. I think it is about embracing the sex energy as something fundamentally different and what it was before. That thing from before is wrong. I like it that it breaks open. Threesomes analbdsm is all becoming something people do. It becomes part of social life. It's part of what people talk. Or it's not a secret anymore that people watch porn. The taboo comes to light. I think this is transition.

Maybe all just rubbish of a cheap naive girl that is sooo immersed in sex porn all the time. I love to steer up and to play with it. I love to play with guys reacting to my tires or my cieavage or my shirt. Because it's natural. There must be a playful way to awake this energy and to live it embrace it as a mich greater thing.
I do yantra massage and a lot of my observation comes from what I learned and my experimenting I am only 18. But I also experienced a lot since about 12-13

 

I like you challenging me. I will go into this latee

 

I'm kind of confused about why you're even here if this is how you feel. You realize this is a website for people abstaining from porn, right?

Personally, I completely, vastly disagree I have no problems with sex and I think it's a great and beautiful thing... for a marriage. Not to be used as a social thing. There are many studies on how damaging that is, so it's not just a religious opinion or something.

But hey, whatever, you're free to do what you want. I just don't see why you would be here if you don't seem to have any issue with porn and with being a sexual person who likes to seduce men. At times you've said you want to change certain things, but it doesn't really seem like you actually do.

 

Quite frank you come accrues a lot like the mr moral. I checked more threads from you. This is the same thing in all you express. Your business of course. But in this context of replying to me I have the right to relay properly. I hope you can deal with it and reflect yourself too. Not sure if you do. It comes also across as if you think you know how things are and you are judgemetal. Definitely not a help. Not for others not for you. I can be direct. I mean it well I hope you can take this as a well intended feedback.

I did not say I am perfect and I know it all. I expressed honestly my observation and what I see.

I have a lot to learn and I want to change a lot. But certainly not under the aspect of guilt and morales and judgment. I think they are rather hindrances.

 

I agree. I'm not at all about shaming people or making them feel guilty or judged. I'm sorry you felt that I was, but that wasn't my intention at all. I just simply asked a question, and I still don't really know what the answer is. I'm confused about why you are here if you don't seem to have an issue with the way porn is a part of your life. This whole site is all about abstaining from porn, so that doesn't make sense to me. That's not a judgement, it's a question.

I'm also coming from a place of guarding the hearts of my fellow brothers here. We have, at many different times, had women come into this site with the sole purpose of preying on weak minded men and trying to seduce them. I'll be frank, a lot of your posts concern me in that, especially the fact that you're always asking people to private message you. I'm not saying you have ill intentions, necessarily, and if you don't then I apologize for the accusation. But this exact situation has happened many times and caused a lot of problems, so I'm wary and cautious, for good reason. I'm sorry if that offends you.

 

1. I am here because I want to change a lot of my wrong ways.
2. I don't see this site as a condemnation of porn. It's not judging it right? I think this is one key element. It's us who fell into it and got addicted.
3. I am not saying you should watch porn. I just say there is a larger development that is good and that addiction and the right use of sex different then old days in a much more embracing and fulfilling way is happening.
I got sucked into it myself. I myself have to get out. I think I just started to drop the moral judgement as I really think it's one of the hindrances. Things like this site help to get to the bone and the mechanics at work. Morals etc all not the thing of cure. It's reflection striving and consistency. I am sure. Rather than the judgement and the bad feeling.

 

You don't see what I wrote. It's ok

 

I know a lot of that is valid. I also know that it's the realization about yourself and things that are the true medicine. Not morales doctrines and opinions. These are rubbish and worthless