So i decided to to nofap and after 2 weeks feeling completely empty and depressed. I thought nofap will completely change me but it did nothing to me. Everyday i'm alone by myself at school with no one to talk to or be with unless with family members. I was completely different 1 or 2 years ago i always get approached by friends and they talked to me. Now they all walk in groups and i'm the one that goes in the group and being the weird guy standing there. Also girls approached me and always caught them starring at me and gigling and smiling back of course and talk to them now i just don't have the balls anymore its like i will get rejected right away like i'm some kind of garbage laying around. Maybe i don't have the looks anymore or because of acne and just looking weird to them. And went to basketball for 2 years but it wasn't fun anymore and went to volleyball for few months and stoped going there because i was made fun of out there. Then there was exercising. I started exercising 2 years ago or smt like that because ladies like exercising guys, but still no girl even notices. Now i just feel like i'm nothing, at school some people look at me like a psychopath that i had anger problems earlier. Feeling like no one loves and no one will and i will never have a girlfriend because i'm ugly, weird and worthless in this world. Nothing cheers me up its like i want to die, games don't give me that happiness anymore,talking or doing something else. Everyday the same routine angry,depressed,unlovable,rejected,hurt,lonely,sad. I literally don't know what to do, these suicides thoughts are in my head always but i want to live a happy life but now life beat me to the ground and making me cry every time. It's like nothing will change, therapist didn't do nothing to just asking questions how do you feel about it. I don't drink or smoke. Just don't know what to do anymore i will probably give up and go insane like joker in batman
hey buddy , You are unique, you are special and you are loved. You are amazing! Don't let them bring you down by what they say or do! My prophet Muhammad was the most beautiful man and had the best conduct from all the humanity. He was hit, abused, scolded and almost murdered. His own family tried to kill him. His own uncle would humiliate him. Why? because He peace be upon him was different! It's the reality bro. FOCUS on yourself! You are like gold. All the struggles are like heat. It will only make you increase in worth. Invest in yourself, train, study, work and become the best version of yourself! Man up yourself and ignore the others. Be positive, be ALWAYS positive and NEVER give up! You are worth it! Don't worry about girls. Increase yourself and you will find someone who is worth sharing life with! Don't waste your time on them! I believe in you friend!
Hey buddy, I think you need to have patience and be optimistic. Depression after week one plays well and i think this is a part of nofap. Anxiety and massive depression and loneliness will start urging. Actually I face loneliness and till now I can't figure the main reason if it is the dead environment and the negative faces I see. Or the way I see things is wrong. But in all cases you should know and believe in one thing : That you are a great person who has his own unique personality that shall be liked by other ones. Don't think about negative thoughts and have confidence within yourself and develop yourself. Focus on yourself. Don't ever think about what people think or say about you. Believe in yourself and you know that nobody is same and we all are living to make a better version of ourselves each day. One thing I always believe in. Is that when you focus on creating your character and passions and enjoy them, others will start getting attracted to you and ask you to be with them. They will start needing you and they will feel the love to you before you start the same thing toward them. Be OPTIMISTIC MAN!
first of all 2 weeks is nothing in terms of reeboting .........i am on 155 day and i still feel anxious as hell........ofcourse there are some benefits but still everyone take its own time i can understand loneliness................ what were your ideologies 2-3 years ago.........implement them again i will like to give you a spiritual explanation.......when trees are full of fruits and leaves birds visit them without any invitation.........but when that same tree shed its fruits and some leaves.....then those same birds avoid visiting that tree.......with all my experience i have realised this world is just like this........every single one of us is like this........we like to approach those who can provide us something beneficial ..........so either you understand this and stop repenting or you man up work hard and attract all those selfish birds..........so that you can satisfy your ego choice is yours god bless you
Dammit, switex! Stop with the 'I'm unworthy' crap at once! Enough with the brainwashing from others! Don't fall into any trap. You entered this world alone and you'll leave this world alone. Don't think you have to belong to any group to be 'accepted' or to be 'worthy'. Strive to be independently happy. Special people will come into your life anyway. Please don't worry or fret. All storms will pass and peace will prevail. It's noble that you're tackling the pmo problem but you have to accept and appreciate your uniqueness as well. Only a small portion of your consciousness animates your body. Your higher self is VAST. Joseph Campbell said, "Follow your bliss!" Things will work out for you. Abolish all suicidal notions!
Hey @switex, I've been in this state for most of my teen and adult life, and I guarantee it can change and it will change. Ignore your own depressive thoughts, those are all false or exaggerated. The best advice I can give you is don't try to hide it. Hiding behind a mask only makes you feel worse on the inside, so let yourself be openly depressed. Don't just say, "I'm fine," when someone asks how are you doing. Say something like, "I feel sad/lonely/depressed lately." Talk about how you feel, not only with your therapist. Some people might avoid you because of that, but you can be surprised to find that others will actually try to support you.
Look just focus on other things, your interests (hobbies) or even school/sports. Once you become active you are focused on something other than feeling miserable which is important. Especially fitness/sports, because fitness promotes the creation of endorphins, you don't have to do social sports either if its not your thing, you can also do martial arts etc. I think for someone young, at least for me when I was your age, the toughest part was that I didn't know how to remove the stress crawling up on my neck and head or so, stuff that I only learned how to do later in life from reading in some yoga book(which I actually looked into because I wanted to learn about ki/chi). So take it easy , you are doing fine and as for other kids , they probably just steer away because you are so down on yourself like that so that shit will likely change when you pick yourself up. And my advice is don't talk about nofap and don't preach it to others because kids at that age, well no offense but most of them probably wouldn't understand what you are saying anyway. Remember, focus on yourself, have goals.
I think this is true and really important. When I bumped into someone today and they asked me how I was doing, I said, “Gotta be honest, today has been rough. Can’t get out of my own head.” They responded not just with sympathy but with their own stuff. She and I had a nice conversation (not about either of our worries) and it felt good to know another human could understand and even in their own bad mood wanted to talk to someone else. So I agree. Don’t lie: tell the truth and you may be surprised.
my classmates and other friends dont even underatand how i feel and they call me a moron but idc what they anymore
Never like to lie im a good person. There was one girl i talked to she was depressed like me. And starting to cut her arms with a knife so i when walked up to talk i sayd why are you so sad and responded. Nothing go away.
Hey bro how are you? Me too man, even I have the same problem,can't even study bro I have final exams next week.
I'm good at the moment trying cold showers drinking tea and relaxing. Man its hard out there these exams,tests are stressing students out and putting pressure on us. I know how you feel about exams the same feeling was to me, its hard to study and focus when there is a lot. Well i hope you will pass your exams and focus on studying
It's very hard to study but I have no choice but to study, if I don't pass one subject I'll have to repeat the whole year again since next year is the third year. please pray for me.