Hi All, What tips do you have to beat PMO that NOBODY has mentioned yet on this forum yet (as far as you know) - they can be quirky, funny or really specific to your case but often they can offer help someone else (ermm me too who may see their PMO issue from another angle and add to the toolbox of stuff that can help that person smother PMO out of their life. For example- one of mine is (may have been covered on this forum) If you practice meditation dont focus your attention very 'low' i.e. your pubic/ lowest belly area. It usually raises your sexual energy and can actually 'trigger' a PMO session.
thanks no saint - definetely can be a feeling the moment type of hting- especially if it cold outside already and your running it cold
EXERCISING. I put up a pullup bar on my do and I do one every time I leave or come in, I've been doin' it for like an hour and it's the best I've felt all day. But then again it's different for everyone, and I don't have much experience, being 11 hours in..
I drink soy milk/juice. It lowers testosterone levels. Surges in testosterone levels is what causes urges. Just don't drink too much, it could have some adverse effects.
The corpse technique- imagine you p imagery as corpses http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?31763-Dealing-with-P-imagery-the-corpse-technique
Not sure if someone said this before since I'm new, but 1) Peeing helps, w/e I feel a boner coming 2) Telling myself I'm too good looking to be jerking myself off. Ik I'm vain. This one is gonna sound stupid 3) I wanna experience actual love, and don't want to waste my energy jerking off to pic's like a sad fuck.
jesus thats hardcore hehe i think in my case i dont want to go down that path in case my mind learns to associate the 2 images. then im fkd interesting method though!
not stupid at all- when you have sex with a woman you really, deeply love (which ive been blessed to experience in my life) it is insanely indescribably awesome. it is 10x times more hot and potent than actual sex with just any girl and 100x more so than the hottest porn girl. keep at it man... youll know it when it happens ; )
Pray to God at dawn and sunset. Its the time where the thief enter the house and remain hidden in the basement. So wake up on those precise moments and dont let these soughts enter their seeds in your mind. Rest of the day will be more peaceful, try it
Continuously ask yourself weather or not you want to feel like a worthless piece of shit after a PMO, and picture yourself with your hand around your penis drenched with semen while reaching for tissues watching other people have sex on a screen while your family are standing there watching you. This will surley kill off any urges, so long as your will power is greater than your desire to masturbate.
I know this sounds silly, but it helps! There's a song that we used to sing almost every week, in Sunday School, as a kid, and sometimes, when I feel tempted to PMO, I'll sing 2 verses from it out loud to myself, It's really easy to learn, it goes like this, Oh be careful little eyes what you see, Oh be careful little eyes what you see, For the Father up above is looking down in love, So be careful little eyes what you see! Oh be careful little hands what you do, Oh be careful little hands what you do, For the Father up above is looking down in love, So be careful little hands what you do! It actually helps! I just wish that I had taken the message in this song to heart as a kid, then maybe I could have avoided getting trapped in the habit of PMO! Hope this helps!
Give yourself your own mental pep talk and write it down. Your best motivation is the one you create for yourself with your own thoughts. For example: "No one in this forum can stop you if you choose to relapse. BUT WHY THE HELL would you go back to that old self. Why? What's the point? The only one who will suffer the consequences is YOU, the only one who will witness the rewards of this thing is YOU. Simple as that. So stop with the victim crap, YOU know what you have to do and not do." it might sound a little crazy but it has helped me on numerous occasions lol.
Hold your breath for as long as you can when the urges come. Your body will stop thinking so much about "I wanna fap" and start protesting that "I need some oxygen!"
I tried for a while, making myself write sentences every time I would PMO, something like "I know that looking at pornography and masturbating is wrong, so I will never look at pornography or masturbate again!" I'd write it 50 times the 1st time, 100 times the next time, 150 the next time, and so on, hopeing that writers cramp might help to drive the point home! I think I made it up to like 350, and stopped writing the sentences, cause I got tired of writing, and there was no-one there to MAKE me write them! This didn't work so well for me, but maybe it'll work for someone else!
Hey man! i agree with what you said, there is nothing wrong with ur affirmation, but I think affirmations need to be positive, "i will not watch porn and masturbation" would be a terrible affirmation where as this would be better: "I will work on my Goals today and I will utilize my free time doing things I love, reading books, watching Documentaries on Youtube (whatever you like)" I have seen this movie "The Secret" and that's the base for my views, however if you donot agree, that's alright because you put out your opinions in hoping it would help others, if sm1 dislikes what you said, its not a reason to be pissed or be disappointed about. Cheers!
I liked these Tips guys... Hey Louman I just wanna say my views on Cold Showers, ACTUALLY TAKING COLD SHOWERS KEEPS YOU WARM, if its Cold outside, that's more the reason to take it. Plus its relaxing, after a minute, you'd be lying if you say otherwise lol