I FUCKING CANT . I fucking can’t . I FUCKING CANT !!!!! He bought it in January when I went to go see my 21 year old dying nephew . He’s been lying during FANOS for 6 fucking months . He has no privacy , too many restrictions blah blah . Fuck you ive been trying to fuck you . Fuck off . I’m so sorry gals . I’m a mess . I need to leave .
I'm so sorry. Would he leave instead, if you told him to go? Whatever you do, please make sure you and your boys are safe. Our hearts are hurting with you.
I just got to my sisters ( the one I told in aug ) prob should have got an Uber but I made it . He has no idea I came downtown packed said you can sleep in the bed I’m out
This is MY situation only . I would hate for anyone to feed off of my feelings I just needed a safe place
And you have a safe place here. We are all here for you and feel your pain. And over the coming days I hope you find the strength to put your self-care as top priority. Not feeding off feelings but feeling my own real fears....this addiction sucks and of course he went straight into addict blame didn’t he, too many restrictions no privacy yada yada
I don't think it's feeding off the feelings. To me it feels like solidarity. If it happens to one of us, it happens to all, in a way.
Yup we all reach a point when enough is enough...or they do...or they pull out and leave. Classic avoidance...ya you have my support. I understand completely what you are going through. It’s so incredibly tough being supportive, when your dying on the inside. The lies, sneaking, betraying, and drama. You are incredibly patient and supportive and like you me you put his feelings first. No more. ..you go girl, stand up straight and tall and call it like it is. High five to you
Sleep don’t come easy . My sister and I listened to the recording that after 2 min I had forgotten I even was . I needed to hear myself and him . The overall synopsis. He was not remorseful , only briefly when he bought it and the one time he used it when I was picking up our son gone 6 minutes and he almost got caught he said he felt that was wrong of him and didn’t know why he did it . After 40 min he said and I apologize. That was the only apology . NOTHING . No I’m sorry I hurt you again . No remorse . Basically FANOS is stupid every book is stupid . All fucking set .
Sorry to play devils advocate here but is it possible that this is a perfectly innocent laptop or has he confirmed it's being used for p? Update about 3 hours later - Fightyourlowerself is an naïve idiot. Please forgive the above ignorant comment. The last thing in the world he wants is to upset anyone, especially amazing people like the SOs here.
We know what this is . This is the addict . This is not my husband. He HID a new laptop AGAIN . For SIX months lying during FANOS . Yes it was primarily used to view P . After not using P for 730 days . Fucking stupid .
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to upset you by this - I was taught to try to look for the best in people. You are in my prayers.
Ah yes - just your everyday, perfectly innocent, hidden-by-an-addict with a history of hiding laptops on which to view porn, laptop. To suggest anything otherwise would be premature and grievously unfair. And with these kinds of unfair accusations and mistrust flying around, no wonder the poor man had to resort to using porn. He really had no choice, given the persecution he has endured at the hands of people who expected him to be an adult and tell the truth and such.
I'm so sorry guys - I am so trusting with people that part of me just wanted to believe this could all be innocent. It is clearly not and it was not appropriate for me to ask otherwise.
It’s ok . We all started out thinking this way . That is the only way I was able to stay for as long as I have . Don’t be sorry. Always ask here , you’ll learn something.
I absolutely don't have the words to express how sorry I am about your husband and your situation in general. I remember being in his mental position. I was sorry I got caught. I wasn't sorry I hurt my wife or that I wasn't in a serious mental state of "I want to work on my recovery." I was sorry only that I wasn't better at sneaking and hiding. It sounds like that may be your husband's mentality right now. I don't know anything about your relationship with him other than what you've posted here, so I'm definitely not going to suggest either leaving or staying. All I'd like to say is that whatever you decide, I hope you take time to calm your thoughts and make sure that whatever you decide is what is best for you and your kids. God bless and good luck.
This is the second laptop found , the first one 12/16 . 735 days no p . Together 23 years . I deserve better I’m a damned unicorn wife .