In hindu religion if you get premarital sex you get beat up in hell,then get your genitals eaten up by hellish dogs and rats.
thats something for you to decide, dont make decisions based on how other people view it, do what feels right to you and stick with it.
Literally nobody here said that she shouldn't have sex because she's a woman. Half of these guys said they also are planning to save themselves for marriage. Stop trying to be a victim everywhere you look. Nobody has said anything sexist in this thread. Also, literally nobody said she should "never have normal, monogamous sex." What the heck are you even talking about? Nothing you're complaining about has even happened, at all.
I'm sorry if I stepped on any toes here. I think it's a great choice if one wanna wait for marriage, and also if one doesn't. I'm no victim in any way, I grew up in an environment where it was ok to choose and I got that choice myself, so to paint me out as a victim is odd and slightly perplexing, considering how extremely lucky I am to be born as a woman in this day and age. I hope all women get this kind of freedom. I got very triggered when I saw something about a woman having lower morals for having premarital sex and that's simply preposterous, especially if it comes from a PA. So is the threat of burning in hell. I have no idea what normal healthy people would have against her making her own choices in the matter, no matter what those choices would be.
I just don't see how anyone here has been sexist. The guy who said you will go to hell for having sex before marriage didn't say that only applies to women. It applies to him, too. There's nothing sexist about that.
This is what I took offence to. I've also seen the same discussion in many, many threads over the months, which has annoyed me, as I know many women who haven't waited, and they are lovely, educated mothers and wives today. They are certainly not disease ridden or bad in any way and I'm blessed to call them my friends. You are right in that there has been a lot of good advice given here as well.
Fair enough. I don't really read what that guy says anymore, because it's always offensive to me. So I glossed over that one. Your comment made it sound like every guy in this thread was being sexist, so that's what confused me.
I'm a person that has had sex just to get rid of my virginity. I believed that by doing this, my life would change. No insecurity, no social anxiety, lots of friends and gfs, total transformation. In fact, none of these happen. I would say that it's exactly the opposite. If I met a woman that says what you said in your first post, I would consider her valuable, smart, intelligent and worth to be respected. I'd love to have a gf like this. I wish I had known these back then, before making the mistake. But I had to be hurt in order to learn. That's the difference. You know it without hurting yourself...
The best thing ever! You are unique! Honestly, I will never marry a girl who has already dated someone else.
As a jewel of gold in a swine's snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion. -Proverbs 11:22 Good day.