Hi, for escorts issues, I know that a switch from Escorts meeting to RSD activities (PUA) is a fantastic way to forget about escorts. I found two way to think about it : (it is just my view and it may help, I am trying to add value by sharing true stories) - What is the best / worst possible outcome for an escort meeting ? - Well, she is a phenomenal girl and you have a great 1 jour session and you increase your immediate Joy and maybe you release a tension after long no PM period. But that's it. You have an externalisation of your joy and release process ... you are dependent of an external expensive factor that will only fulfil you 1 hour. - Or she is not that beautiful, tired, bad in bed, and all other negative outcomes... You feel bad after, you would not be happy to see that on the newspaper the morning after. No fulfil from inside, no happyness, no growth. Just rapid 1 hour joy. - What is the best possible outcome for studying Seduction, Meeting girls, Applying RSD lessons and investing in yourself. - Well, the best outcome is that you become a hardworker on seduction, you increase confidence with gym, sport, technical RSD skills, good social interactions with girls, going outside your confort zone, building a momentum of energy and confidence, learning humour, growing yourself, adding more value to people, family friends. And in top of that, you would have real rewards from girls : if you are good at seduction, if you make a girl smile and have fun, she will invite you and give you far more pleasure than the escort ? why ? because you earned it, so it fulfil you from the inside : you tell your brain : if your work then you got it, if you grow, then you have better impact. And so on with infinite positive outcome the more you grow. You would be happy to see your hardwork and actions on the newspaper in the morning because people would say : this guy has courage, balls and determination. - Negative impact : well you get tired and it is painfull because you can't get highest level of girls on day 1, well, it is just life, it is a simple rule of evolution driving every species, if a girl meet me on my first day in the seduction process when I am a loser, probability she says no to me is 99%, but if I approach 5 girls every day and 20 girls every weekend then after 6 months, the probability that the girl says yes for a coffee date is like 70%. so the negative impact if just a positive pain which is fantastic because it teaches your brain to do the " No Pain No Gain " Mindset so basically you are walking in a path of life where you do not have instant gratification / Instant result : this is life and this is exactly the other direction from facebook/insta/porn that give instant fake-external-artificial pleasure/gratificaiton without working. Well, in life no pain no gain, no work no gratification. So it teaches you to go in opposite direction of the society of followers. Which will make you a better man for your family and an alpha man for your wife.
@pcmaster I am happy to say that PMO is not an option. After a 13 month run of no PMO, I hit an obstacle at the end of June. I tried to build back momentum, going 10, 11 days 20 days, but would relapse. My mind was not connecting and I could not build momentum. I thought that I fell because of a stressful day, but it still did not add up. For 4 months I would stop and start. The interior freedom that I felt was not there. @Strength And Light had challenged me to look at my my connections with others about my struggle. At first I did not see an issue, I had opened up about my struggle and victory over PMO with about 5 people. But last Saturday, it hit me that I had withheld something from the very first person that I shared with, my mentor. I withheld about a flirtatious relationship with a woman at work. This was early June, 3 weeks before I initially relapsed. This secret build up an interior wall between me and my mentor. I met with my mentor on Tuesday and opened up. The interior freedom returned. I only have 8 days, but I feel free inside for the first time in 4 months. I'm not struggling to add a day. I'm not trying to justify and rationalize. I feel free. When an urge hits or a memory hits, I am able to handle it like I did before. I also got back to the disciplines that helped me earlier. Cold showers since Tuesday. Getting up at alarm. Motivational talks in the morning. Drawing boundaries with the woman at work. Being open with my mentor. @pcmaster and @Strength And Light , thank you for the challenge. This is what community is supposed to be. @Strength And Light , I apologize for not responding to your message back in August. It rang true and had to sink in. Lesson? We are as sick as our secrets. GOD'S PEACE
Hey no worries about not getting back. I've thought about you a few times recently and figured you were stuck in a battle with PMO based on your lack of recent activity here on the site. I'm glad to hear about how you're up and running again!
Thanks for sharing. I need stuff like this from people who are farther along than where I am. Very helpful!
I think I know why you relapsed man. because you got so close to 500 days that become too confident and not careful. That lead to dangerous situations that lead to relapse. And now you feel like your streak is so low that theres nothing to lose. Stay strong and keep fighting !
Great post. Congrats on your success. I've made it 56 days which is about twice my previous all time record. I feel like a true "Fapstronaut" but out here in space it is scary. The last few days have been really tough and I've been wondering how much longer I can make it. Reading these success posts like yours are giving me the confidence to keep going. I've had enough of the porn and misery, that's for sure.
Congratulations Brother for this great achievement. It seems that you are on another streak with 39+ days. Hope will get to 1 year this time also. Your post is really inspiring as well as knowledgeable from the scientific point of view. I get to know various new brain chemistry points.Thanks for that. Good luck Brother !
how many days in did it take for your morning woods to return and stay properly hard? mine are all over the place and frankly it can be quite a bit scary. i dont think ive had a full proper hard erection in months.
And here I am just a worm at day 3... I went to day 4 about 2 weeks ago but then kept relapsing after day 1 multiple times
Nice to see you back on bigger streak Man ! I got big streak too but now I understood you and other guys who could not last longer than few weeks after breaking streak.