Big Schlongs & Inferiority Complex

What most men don't realize is that women don't care too much about this, really. So we men shouldn't be too obsessed about it, either.

 

I’m not saying I’m massive but having sex with a girl who is really tight and keeps screwing her face up because it’s hurting and can only do 1 position is crap. So don’t stress some women don’t let big willies screw them

 

You shouldn't be obsessed by it, very few men have big dicks, like 1 in 89 have 20cm/8inch and bigger ones the odds are way less, so all those other men with normal and less satisfy their girlfrieds/husband just fine, or if you want think the other way around most normal girls who had a few relationships most likely never had a big one anyway.
I have seen a documentary where the interview 10 pornactresses and 9 out of 10 prefered normal and are even okay with smaller, they find it more important how they are treated, don't forget good sex is also forplay (and afterplay). So these actresses act in movies mostly with the big ones but in real live they are more then okay with normal size.

 

Man, you really have to stop watching porn. It's a clear sign of escalation and you're starting to navigate in really dangerous territories (not sure if I have to tell you why but I can sadly see where your addiction will lead you and let me tell you you don't want to be there).

 

In my humble opinion you're on the right path. Porn is all lies. Even amateur porn. I think everybody you ever meet is self conscience about at least one thing about their body. I'm not huge, I would call myself average and use to obsess about that as well. Then I came to a point of it is what it is. You can't change it. Accept it and move on. As posted many times above I don't think many women really care.

 

What your experiencing is escalation your PMO brain needs more extreme stuff to get off. It's a classic case in all porn and drug addictions. So this is a very scary step because first you have to understand that it's not normal thinking that is causing you look at men the way you do. Your addiction is taking over your reward system in your brain and now it wants more .

On the positive side YOU can make the choice to change this way of thinking by not just COMMITING to NOFAP but to build a new life for yourself with out porn.

 

You have to sit down and think how best to tackle your general inferiority complex, and think about where it came from, i.e. what were your formative experiences growing up that may have led to it. Focusing on big penises is a projection of this and has no connection to your penis size.

I'm well above average in size and have had trouble having sex with about half the women I've ever been to bed with, to the point of frustration, because noone (average, normal) likes being in pain. The people we see in porn videos, even the amateur ones, are a self-selected bunch.

To see how big penis obsession is far removed from reality, consider this: I too got it after many years of PMO, and escalated even further, to the point of catfishing as a man with a small penis, trying to get others into roleplays involving penis comparison, which was really built on my feelings of inadequacy in other aspects of life.

Unless you're diagnosed with having a micropenis, your penis will be enough for virtually every woman. Few women are size queens, less than 10%, and if a girl you're with starts talking unprovoked about a penis other than yours and penis sizes, it's time to bail, no matter how big you are.

I could go on with plenty of anecdotal stories about how women perceive penis size, but the gist is that porn ≠ reality.

 

I use to think just like that, the more porn I watched the more I became more insecure of my penis size, as a matter of fact I literally got introduced into NoFap because I looked up on google how to get sensitivity into my penis(because I literally would not stop watching porn and masturbating EVERY night) and found NoFap, looked into it, thought it was dumb, tried it for a few days and it changed my mind a complete 360(this was middle of 2016). And recently(I would say like a year ago) I just stopped thinking about women judging me by my penis size because, no one really cares. What made me realize I had to stop thinking about that stupid shit was that women are human, not objects. If you are going to have sex with someone you love, would the first thing that comes to your mind be, "I hope she thinks my dick is big enough for her?" No. And it should never. You are gonna make love to her, not your penis(You get what I mean)

 

[QUOTE=". I have a normal-sized penis when erect but a very small one when unerect. Could this be the cause of the complex?[/QUOTE]

You can have peace of mind, only 5% have a penis bigger then 6,3 inches. Like I mentioned before I think generally speaking a woman who had a few relationships never had a big one. And several studies show women prefer normal size penis anyway. Their vaginas are not that deap, so a big penis can hurt them. It's not about size that they care, treat them good, get them aroused. You can be the greatest lover but if the woman is not aroused it is useless. If you get them aroused generally any size is good.

 

I understand the stress. For years I struggled with the same thing and my porn usage got more and more perverse, eventually leading more and more toward same sex oriented. I always felt the need to compare even though I’m very well endowed. The more I got away from porn the less compulsion I’ve felt towards this. My advice is don’t allow yourself to get any deeper into that cycle.

 

I used to obsess about size as well. I’m comfortably above norm in both length and girth but watching porn made me feel so insecure I was into comparing D size with dick picks. Stopping P was the key. Opened up to my wife I was bi but after about a year pretty much free of P I realize it wasn’t gay attraction but P induced insecurity. Now I wish I hadn’t said anything to my wife although she was wonderful about my “revelation”. I told her about my insecurity and she laughed sweetly and said she wished I was smaller and she would enjoy it more because after 46+ years of marriage it’s uncomfortable for her. (Hormonal changes) So, I have to take it real slow and gentle and with lub. But doing so it has improved actual sex.

 

Wow, thank you for this thread and all the replies, it's great to hear how so many guys of average or above average size struggle with this, too!

Perhaps I can offer some perspective as mine is clearly shorter than average and I have even been rejected by women for being too small. On the flip side, I had one woman proposition me because she was heard that I was small and wanted to try an*l for the first time!
Even before porn, I heard a lot of locker room talk about penis sizes and it was hard not to notice how much bigger some guys are than others. And watching endless porn just compounded the problem. In the end, though, I think we need to accept what we have because there's not much that we can do about it.

Well said. I've heard 15%, and that roughly 15% of women can orgasm from the penis hitting their cervix (while most women can't orgasm from PIV), so there might be a correlation there. And you need 6 inches or more to reach the cervix . . .
And the flip side of that - is that roughly 15% of women have an extremely sensitive cervix and find sex with a larger man to be too painful. You win some, you lose some.

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure that it really did mess you up, especially to go through that when you were so young. Honestly, sometimes I wonder if I was born intersex and my parents never told me.
Good for you on losing all that weight and glad to hear that size is back to average. I'm also a grower, not a shower, and while it can be embarrassing, I think most women will love you as you are and will be happy that you have a normal-sized penis.

Well said!

This is really good for me to hear.

This, too!

 

Hahahahaha, if u will take pornstar phallus as reference then 99% of men are worthless........

Which is not the truth bro?
And telling u from experience that size really matters a little for girls and others things matters a lot.
Wars are not won by only big sword but by effective use of swords with all other means... Being dramatic but, really I used to think about size before and now after reading and through little ( small) experience can tell you. You should not be ashamed of the size if it's not extraordinarily small. If it is indeed then also it really does nt matter if u get a real partner...

So chill bro. Have smile and first of formost stop watching that filth of porn

 

100% trueeee

 

Yes stop at the beginning itself little brother