Hey brothers, I hope you’re all doing well. Seems like I’ve hit another plateau and I’m seeking some advice to overcome it. I’m at 125 days of no porn, 53 days of semen retention, had a nocturnal emission(none sexual dream) 8 days ago , due to anger I believe. For about a week and a half I’ve been angry easily, I tend to replay the scene in my head too. Today, a family member pissed me off , insanely. My blood is boiling, instead of just shrugging it off or disregarding it, I’m mad. I also meditate quite a few times a day, but today it only alleviates the emotion for a short duration, only for it to return. I feel like flipping a table, punching a hole threw the wall, breaking a plate etc. I actually run those thoughts in my head sometimes this last week and a half. I’m usually not quick to anger, actually quite the opposite really. Do you have any tips? Is this normal/part of the recovery process? The tension I get from this anger is pretty scary tbh. I swear facing your emotions can be extremely challenging...
I am very quick to anger also. The obvious advice is to take deep breaths and remove yourself from the angering scene. Go and do some exercise or something else to take your mind off of it. Try to go outside regularly for fresh air, the coolness of the air can physically and mentally cool you down and help you relax. Going outside and exercising can also help diffuse some of the tension. If you are at a critical point where you are going to break something think of what will happen afterwards - think of the hole in the wall you will have to explain to your family, etc. Fundamentally though I think the key is to step outside yourself when you feel the anger building. Try not to be "in" your anger but rather step outside it and observe it. When you are "in" the anger, you are feeding it actively. Don't think of it as "I am angry" but "I am experiencing anger". The anger is not you, view it distantly.
watch the movie "revolver" by guy ritchie. every emotion that overpowers you like pride, anger, or fear is caused by ur ego. its not you. the trick is to realize and reaffirm this realization.
Very good point, I have trouble with the attachment part to the emotion. I’ll work on reinforcing “I am experiencing “ as opposed to I am angry. Btw I wouldn’t actually punch a whole in the wall/flip a table, I’m just saying the thought pops in my mind haha, I would never act on that type of thought. Thank you for your wisdom brother!
Thank you for this brother, I’ll take a look this coming weekend! You’re absolutely right..I note my ego on so many of my reactions. It’s just one of the challenges I face now that I can’t hide behind PMO or other things.
Ohh okay, I took that the wrong way. Sorry brother, I appreciate the assist. Hopefully it’ll settle in the next few weeks. This journey is really a roller coaster ride.
im in the same situation, i pin point it to the fact when we on nofap our testosterones levels rise giving us all this furious energy, everyone at work thinks im pissed off at them all the time in fact im not, i physically over react at work as its physical labour at my work,incrediibly i get everything done i just wished i didt feel so angry all the time, if once in awhile i become intimate with a girl i feel balanced out, i still have high energy i just aint feeling angry , i want to get back in the gym an lift, that well tire my body out the next day so that i dont act so hostile all the time,
Thank you for sharing brother! Glad to hear I’m not the only one, makes sense. My T levels were quite low when I tested them 4 months ago. Yeah I need to start adding more slowly to my workouts..burn that excess energy and anger positively
Yes, I did. Porn just damages your heart and messes with your emotions. I used to get angry a lot even when I didn't take any drugs.
You’re right brother, the soul itself feels corrupted. The more I go on this journey, it’s peeling back layers. I see you have quite the impressive streak going, congratulations on your success. I hope to reach the same eventually. If you don’t mind me asking, how long did it take you to start feeling “normal” over all?
Blood test, ask them to test your total T and free T, made the mistake of not asking for both. I got a referral from my family doctor.
The anger just shows up, sometimes for example I’d be pissed off annoyed if someone in my family points out or just says “Did you try warming the food up for longer”. It’s just silly reasons to be irritated by. I might lash out with a sarcastic comment or what not. Never beyond that.