I can't stop thinking about a woman I work with when I'm in bed so I air hump. But I not touching myself.
Yes. You're fantasizing, and physically acting out because of it. As hard as it can be, you have to control the content of your thought life. That's where the change has to happen to make the real fixes.
Then I think you've answered your own dilemma. She's married. What does fantasizing about a married woman do for you at all? Why are you wasting energy and time dreaming about something that, even in a best case scenario, ends up shattering a marriage? Dude. You need to stop this pronto. You are not only doing yourself harm in your reboot, but potentially risking your workplace relationships as well.
Her husband watches you every time you talk to her? Stay away from her. Talk to her only if it is work-related and keep a professional demeanor.
I say this with such force because I've been where you are, attracted to a married coworker. Even more so, she was attracted to me, and straight up admitted it. We had ample opportunity to act on it, but we both recognized what the consequences were, and how they far outweighed any momentary pleasure. Its never ever something you want to even consider.
No offense but if I ever find myself air humping, I'll slam it in the door just to stop myself from air humping. Don't do it, it's counter productive to what you here for.
Air humping won't help, you need to stop. Reflect. Take a deep breath. Move on to something else and you'll forget about it. When youfeel charged, you can jjust wait for a few mins. Itll pass, you stay charged if you act on the charged feelings. Just sir there observe the thoughts and don't act on it. And you'll feel so good when it passes.
But it is good for the glute muscles. I miss masturbation before sleeping. I have a lot more trouble sleeping now.
Haha air humping??? haha yeah man try controlling yourself a bit and just sleep normally, listen to music or something
i do this almost every night. didn't know it counted as relapse. i'll be more careful now. i've also done couch hugging and couch undressing and couch kissing. guess i should stop that as well.
Well, I have heard some excuses in my time - but air humping is good for my glute muscles - that takes the biscuit!
You're 51 years old sir. Either ask her out or don't "air hump" Fantasying like that is a borderline relapse just saying.
So, does air humping = Edging? In my opinion, no, because humping the air is not masturbation. However, it is not a very wise activity. It is likely that you are thinking of humping or thrusting into another's orifice (of one kind or another). If, not, you are likely to do so. It is "acting out" sexually. Therefore, I think @nomo made a good point earlier:-
I dont it's good to air hump as you're consciously thinking of sex n maintaining ur erection. it wont take much for air humping to turn to bed humping or pillow humping. besides entertaining sex thoughts n harboring them...i'm not sure it will help abstain from masturbation.