POLL: Have you talked with friends/family about NoFap or porn addiction?

No and no. It's weird, I feel ashamed to open up about this even with my closest friends, and let's be honest, there are a 50% chance that they're addicted as well. I've been tempted to talk about this with my mother and sister(my old man is in a better place now) but I think they'll be soooo dissapointed. That's my fear.
What is the reason you haven't opened up with your buddies?

 

BTW, you can set up an actual poll by scrolling down to "Post a Poll" on this page. But to answer your question, no. My parents wouldn't understand. I don't talk to my friends or my older brother about anything of substance, really. I know my brother is a porn user, though...

 

Or maybe can be quite the opposite. "Nah bruh, jacking off is 100% normal", "I do it two times everyday and I'm perfectly fine", "Doctors recommend masturbation", "What are you, a priest?". I told one of my female Friends that I wanted to reduce masturbation(I didn't told her about my addiction). Her response? "C'mon, you should do it, its normal!". So that's that.

 

That's one of the reasons it's so hard to stop, or not even get addicted in the first place. Not only is masturbation not a bad thing, but it's actually promoted and seen as a positive thing. Society has made it to where non-masturbaters are the outsiders. To them, we're the abnormal/(religious in some cases)/superstitious hippies.

 

Yes/yes. I never feel a need to hide anything from family. My friends don't masturbate though, so they are a huge support. That has gotta be tough feeling like you cannot open up.

Addiction thrives in the dark.

Edit: I am a man who truly does not give a fuck what people think about him. I love all people, friend and foe alike. It took me over a year to become so open as to be using my real first name on the forum, having my real location in my profile, and having a photo of myself on the forum. I also follow NoFap publicly on facebook these days.

Here is a video on what it truly means to not give a fuck, in the most thoughtful and dignified way possible,

 

Mainstream society is ass backwards.

Call me a fuckin wisdom rebel bro.

No great man has ever said masturbation is a way to genius or great success. Quite the fuckin opposite pardon my French.

'For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back: sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. And this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out and really uniting with a real woman. For the harem is always accessible, always subservient, calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and can be endowed with erotic and psychological attractions which no real woman can rival. Among those shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect lover: no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In the end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself . . . . And it is not only the faculty of love which is thus sterilized, forced back on itself, but also the faculty of imagination.

The true exercise of imagination, in my view, is (a) To help us to understand other people (b) To respond to, and, some of us, to produce, art. But it has also a bad use: to provide for us, in shadowy form, a substitute for virtues, successes, distinctions etc. which ought to be sought outside in the real world—e.g. picturing all I’d do if I were rich instead of earning and saving. Masturbation involves this abuse of imagination in erotic matters (which I think bad in itself) and thereby encourages a similar abuse of it in all spheres. After all, almost the mainwork of life is to come out of our selves, out of the little, dark prison we are all born in. Masturbation is to be avoided as all things are to be avoided which retard this process. The danger is that of coming to love the prison.'

- C.S. Lewis

Some interesting links,

thedaobums.com/topic/30840-addiction-to-lustpornwomen/

semenloss.info

gnosticwarrior.com/magic-fire-semen.html

You (not you guys, mainstream pro-masturbatory society lol) can wake the fuck up or keep living in the dark eating the masturbatory bullshit the mass media feeds the masses is the way I see things.

Would be nice if all of society would wake up someday.

Sorry for the swearing, here is a song to lighten up the air

 

I hope you guys get the support you need here.

Lol I don't swear like that offline, it just felt right for that post.

Damn that felt good getting that off my chest. Thanks for this thread.

 

I told a few of my old co-workers about nofap and my addiction to P. I know my younger brother watches porn. I currently don't live with him but now that I'm aware of nofap I've been meaning to inform him about the dangers of porn and to try nofap.

 

Lol at the comments for this youtube video, people saying things like 'the reporter is a dumb bitch trying to make things seem worse than they really are and she should shut the fuck up and let Terry talk', but I like what Terry has to say.

If a celebrity isn't afraid to talk about this on tv, I don't think there is anything to fear but fear itself.



And honestly if a friend isn't understanding then I gotta say they need to work on being a better friend. As for family not understanding that is tough stuff but surely can be faced and overcome in time, if one has to share openly about the addiction at some point or another for some reason.

 

I think it varies wildly depending on where you are, whom you come into contact with, and so on.

I recently talked to my roommate about porn addiction (not admitting I myself went through it mind you, but everything else) and he actually talked about some of the stuff we do on here, kind of nice to see people starting to become aware of it.

As for in general I have only discussed it with a few, I would just bring up ED as an issue I had, and then I would suggest porn as the possible culprit. That was before Nofap though, before I knew that porn was the actual cause, so I was being inquisitive about it.

 

yes I have.

 

I talked to a mate and a colleague recently about Nofap. Not sure whether I did the right thing. Problem is if you spend too much time here, you are going to end up talking about it.

 

yes ~~

 

I won't bring it up even if I spend all my time here, if I was to bring it up it would only be while explaining to my best friend about my addiction but that I'm getting help.

 

Tbh I think they won't be disappointed. More like very proud you're doing this step. I'm not talking to my family about this either. But don't be ashamed like that. I talked to a few friends about 'yourbrainonporn' like with a reason of interest and curiosity. I never mentioned j have any problems. At least they can find help there if they're going through the same

 

I'm glad you replied to my comment. A month ago I talked about it with my mother. Yes, it was very embarrasing, but now I feel a lot better, she knows now why I have been so down and weird, so I don't regret telling her about my addiction one bit. I've talked about that with two of my female friends but with a different approach, not the "I'm an addict" one but more like "there so many benefits" one. They told me that they find it weird, but if its helping me I should continue doing it. So I think I've changed my perspective about it and now I agree 100% with you