Recent content by gymismylife

My honest opinion is to not give in or compromise what you want or are comfortable with, to appease someone else. But be prepared for the pressure to escalate, because it likely will. Stay strong. You got this

I can empathize with you on this. I know what it's like to be afraid to go out and do your own thing because you're so afraid of what he's up to when you're gone. I read a really good book recently that has nothing to do with porn addiction, but it was a good resource to help understand how...

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Have you listed your boundaries and consequences? I think there's a few good posts here aboit how to create good boundaries and relevant consequences. I wish you and your partner luck. You got this.

I'm so glad that you and your SO are on the road to recovery. I admire your strength. You are an inspiration.

Thank you. I will read this book.

"Love" lol. I just feel not ready to give up. I love this man despite his addiction. He has so many redeeming qualities that are hard to find in a person. Plus it seems like such a waste to just throw away all that's been invested

It's had a pretty big physical effect on me. My skin and hair is dry. I can't concentrate on anything. I used to love reading and going to the gym, but now these seem like impossible tasks. There is always a knot in my stomach and I get sick much more often than I used to.

I just wish he care, you know? He's always telling me that I'm the only one who has a problem with the things he does. He never has a problem with anything I do. But maybe that's because he doesn't care enough to have a problem or maybe it's because I work harder to make sure that he feels...

We don't have any kids together which makes me question even more, why stay?

He claims that he came to his senses and didn't follow through. But he has no.way to prove that he didn't, and I have no way to prove that he did. I told him that I am just going to stick with what I know, which is that he sent the email, and the second he did that, he actively took steps to...

Thank you. I really appreciate that it's exhausting being strong. But we all have to keep fighting, don't we?

Thank you for this. I will listen as soon as I am free to do so. Regarding the rub and tug, his justification was that we had gotten in to a rather significant argument, and he was out of town, and angry at me. Terrible excuse. His excuse for watching soft core porn was that he was feeling...

Thank you for your.kind words. I.really needed them. I'm so thankful for this forum and the people in it. You're right. He does misplace blame and it sucks because I always get sucked in somehow and end up being the one to say sorry. He told me.today that yesterday was the first time in...

Caught my SO watching soft core porn on YouTube. His excuse was that you can't see anything. We got in to a huge fight about it. Now somehow I'm the bad guy for looking at his internet history. A few weeks ago I found an email he had sent to a rub and tug asking to book an appointment...

Thank you for being so kind to me and taking the time to reply. I'm barely hanging on right now. I'm devastated and I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have to be the strong one. Since the latest discovery, he's been an emotional wreck. Feeling sorry for himself. It's not fair...