Hello guys my problem is that I stop pmo for 2 days or three but I then relapse The urgents always become stronger after the third day and I can not figure where is the problem
That's just your mind controlling you, instead of the other way around. It's part of the whole addiction process. I noticed your join date is new, as is mine. This site has really helped me to see this for what it really is. You'll get some really good information here. You need to focus on feeling this pain, instead of fighting it. One of my biggest fears was giving up pmo. Being fearless is my goal. This is our natural state. I knew that if I could face this fear, it would open up other doors. So I set out every day to put myself in situations that I'm normally uncomfortable with (approaching women, expressing myself, etc...). I fear getting rejected by women. And when I do get rejected (often), I walk away smiling, because I know I did it despite my fear. It's not really about getting laid. It's about overcoming my fear. And I try to apply this to all areas in my life...career, etc... I really buy into the whole "dopamine response" theory. Like any other drug, your mind is constantly trying to trick you to get that fix. Welcome, man. You're amongst friends.
Urges pass. No matter how strong an urge is, you can resist giving into it. It's just like an itch. It's really tempting to scratch an itch, but you don't have to do it. And the more you resist, the easier it'll get. When the urges appear, just remember that it will pass.
http://www.nofap.com/forum/showthread.php?27101-Changing-perceptions-toward-rebooting-to-succeed-at-nofap&p=159880#post159880 This might help....
It is a Good Post,Suyash.Those Tips You Shared were Very True on a daily Basis.I've Downloaded the First Book,and I Will be Reading it Soon. Thanks for The Help. -And Yeah,I Too have the same Problem,Relapsing after 2-3 days.And it Happens Because of Lack of Strategy.You Don't Plan to Tackle Urges,so You Plan to Relapse. So Forget About the Relapses in the Past.Everything happens for Good.It's a New World To You now NoFapAnymore.