Day 1 no PMO. My tips that help me A LOT: Go to bed no later than 10:30pm use an alarm reminder 15 minutes before 10:30pm (urges become stronger once you are in bed for the night and even stronger the later it gets) So get ready for bed and then get right to bed shortly after to avoid them. Also doing things you truly enjoy that bring happiness. I always thought when avoiding PMO that adopting activities in a day that I "SHOULD" have such as reading a book every day, going for short walks, cleaning up more, doing the laundry more etc. Would not only help with PMO but turn me into a better person based on living a daily life that I would believe others expect of me. Well that does not help me at all. I need activities that excite me and make me feel truly happy to successfully get away from PMO, reading books and activities alike will drive me crazy because my dopamine centre is all over the place and in need of lots of dopamine so my urges for PMO will get stronger due to the boredom. So instead I am cleaning out my whole basement from it's clutter (rewarding and exercise), I'm cleaning up items that cost a lot like videogame consoles to be like new (I enjoy it because I'm a perfectionist) and then I sell it all on Kijiji and make money (very exciting because I meet and talk to new people, and make lots of money) and it takes up most of my day getting messages from people for items they are interested in and driving to a halfway point to meet them and sell it to them. Find a wholesome activity that excited your happiness, not picking up a book every day if you couldn't be darned to pick up a book before PMO. Don't go for a short walk, buy an electric scooter and feel the wind in your face and go on an adventure. These activities are wholesome and make you excited for life and you don't get a guilty feeling after. Also time flies when you are having true fun. I do these things and next thing you know it's a week later without me realising it, instead of laying in bed all day trying to push myself to read a book fighting urges like mad and relapsing every 3-4 days like I used to. (Yes my counter says Day 1, but I'm struggling with the O in no PMO when I used to heavily struggle on PM too, it's very hard for me as I have a partner but I use my advice and I can still make it much longer than I used to with minimal to no urges for O, and no PM had become so much easier).
Thanks, man! I appreciate the Support. It's an inspiring thought that urges don't last for a long time. I completely agree. But what we do in those moments is crucial. I thought doing some squats will help, but I didn't that time, may be I could call a friend or go outside or something. What do you do in the moments when you are haunted by urges?
Day 30/30: I don't think I have much to rejoice in except for the fact that I haven't coomed in 30 days. That doesn't mean anything, in my experience. I haven't formed the habits which I wanted to form. Let's see how long it will last. A few days ago I was having strong urges, I was close to visiting an escort. so fucking glad I didn't follow through. As I said, I haven't made any progress. Still, moving on to the next thread, which is 45 days or 60 days whichever is closest to 30, See you guys there.
Not really a direct answer, but if you pay attention you can feel urges coming before they hit you hard. That makes dealing with them just a tad easier..