Help! I’m addicted... My journal to freedom!

Hey @JayKayQ , I'm in the same boat as you. We can overcome this though. Explore this site to educate yourself, watch some videos and read some articles about how porn addiction affects your brain. As you learn more about porn addiction, you'll realize it's healthy and worthwhile to stop. Stay engaged in these forums too, and start a journal.

I've tried many times in my life to fight the urges, but I could never last very long (no more than a month)... but the NoFap community has really helped me to stay with it and hold myself accountable.

 

Some partners are very understanding and try to help as much as they can, so consider asking her for help about it.

Delete all your porn or at least lock it away so that it is difficult to access it.

Install porn blocker software, for example K9 or Kaspersky safe kids.
Makes it at least harder to access porn and you have time to cool down. If neccessary use cold water on your dick then.

Find out what triggers you to watch porn/masturbate and avoid those triggers.
Maybe tell the forum what triggers/fetishes you have, then somebody may have advice how he managed to get rid of it.

Avoid pervert fantasies/masturbation, it is almost like porn.

Better do something useful with your time/energy you would waste for porn, for example play an instrument, learn a foreign language, do something with your girlfried, succeed in your job etc.

Have a goal in live, a strong heartfelt wish (for example having your own familiy) - it helps you to break out of the vicious cycle of pornaddiction.


PS: My streak is "only" 16 day now, but I already noticed positive changes, sex feels much better, sexual disfunction gone plus I seem to have gained charisma (more eye contact, interesting conversations)

 

I don´t know, everyone is different, I didn´t harm myself.

When I started in November, I had about 10 relapses every few days, was fighting for every day like you now.

Then I tought more about nofap and realized around new year, I REALLY have to quit porn and masturbation, I CAN´T disappoint myself anymore, I NEED to just do it now and be clean. Now I am psychologically quite strong and hope I will not look back at porn again.

Maybe it helps, if you ask yourself too, WHY do you want to stop porn. Would it be good, if you were a fapper for the rest of your life or do you really want to get out of the addiction? Find your motivation and just do it.

 

Don´t be too mad, you managed to get over it for three days, that´s light years better than fapping multiple times a day! It is important now, that you don´t binge on PMO.

Maybe this post from thelonewolf helps you too:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/3-fatal-mistakes-rebooters-make.152039/
If TLTR: When you have negative/painful feelings, your brain wants to balance it with a dopamine rush (fapping). It is about getting detached from negative feelings which trigger PMO-medication and that the frustration from relapse is another such negative feeling which can trigger you to fap even more. When you are aware of this, your guard will be up when you feel bad - you may then do a non-harmful activity that makes the negative feelings go away.

Now that you got the 3 days, I would try the 7 days challenge.
Just don´t disappoint yourself now by making no further progress.

Today I read about a female with strong urges that feels MUCH better after a streak of 21 days:
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...-rebooting-from-pa.150225/page-2#post-1271643
It´s worth it, do it! We don´t want to be pathetic fappers for the rest of our lives.

 

Yes, be persistent like a river that cuts through rock, don´t give up or be a sad fapper.

The good thing is, the brain will adjust to the new lower dopamin level over time, so that you feel better again, similar to when you managed to get off a drug (I believe the mechanism is, that by PMO the number of receptors decrease, but by abstaining they increase again), so it will probably slowly get less and less hard to resist PMO.

Yes, try to think positive about it.