Can somebody give me some advice/answer my question?

You may be going through what's called flatline. Even if not, your body is going through a readjustment there are ups and downs, I wouldn't worry about it too much yet, things should eventually roll back around.

Be careful, lots of guys get tripped up by "checking" to make sure things work and end up undoing progress.

 

Oh. Sorry I'm on my phone and can't see/don't know how to reset my counter. My longest streak is 63 days, I think individuals vary, I've gone through 3-4week periods of very low libido (and headache) and periods of strong drive. Hopefully someone with experience of longer streaks will chime in.

 

Hey man,
I think it takes some more time for your head to re-adjust to actual pleasure and sensation. I know it’s very tempting to try and check to see if you’re able to get erections or excited just by touching yourself, but the reality is that not many people get a hard on just by touch only. There is usually some real connection with another girl or some fantasy involved.

Instead, I would start paying serious attention and see what turns you on on the day to day basis. Look at your girlfriend or thing about her and see what you desire the most about her. What turns you on in porn is not the same than what turns you on in real life.

Another very important thing is not to freak out in case you’re not getting turned on by the usual things. For example, in porn I would get very turned on by seeing a certain type of tits. In reality this did nothing to me and I worried about it. I found out later though, that actually licking of touching them drove me crazy, I no longer get hard ones simply by looking at a body but the actual experience of it it’s what gets me going.

If you’re not getting THE BEST erections yet, just relax and keep experimenting, Focus on your girlfriends body, see what turns her on, make her feel pleasure without the need of an erection. In real life, or at least for me, an erection is not something that is a constant thing though out the whole sexual act, still I have great times having sex with my girlfriend.

Take advantage of the fact that you have a girlfriend! She will be very pleased if you focus your attention on her completely instead of on your erection. Loosing yourself in her body, smelling her, touching her, licking her etc etc; Will connect you to a part of your sexuality that you didn’t know was there. You can also share your problem and tell her about what you’re planning to do:

Something like: ‘look I was watching too much porn lately and it was taking my attention out of our connection. I think that if I focus on you know we will both start getting better sex.’
It’s a win win situation for both of you.

Wish you the best man! I would love to see how it goes!!

 

First off i think you need to cam yourself down some. Having anxiety about what your erection level is could prolong the process and, in turn, making you want to "test" it causing relapse. At 50 days in you need to breath deep and trust the process. Give your body and brain time to revert back to its normal state.

 

I think you should not worry about erections/ libido , It takes time for your system to heal . Just relax , and stop testing your erections . Trust on you natural healing process , If you keep worrying , it will eventually result in you relapsing. This happened to me on my previous streak , I reached 90+ days and then started worrying about my libido and ended up fantasizing and then relapsing , Make sure you stick to the reality rather then fantasy. Good Luck ..

 

Yeah the morning erections came back, but it’s not an everyday kind of thing. They just come and go but they are fun to have. I think that by day 90 my libido was pretty strong.

In reality there are times where I have fantastic sex, and other times where I do lack sensitivity and loose my erections. The feeling sucks, for me and for my girlfriend, (she takes it as lack of attraction). And at the moment it is difficult to locate the reason why this happens.
Most of the times, My head starts feeding me thoughts of doubt. “Will you be able to cum” “Are you feeling anything at all??” And these thoughts take me away from the experience and it’s very hard to come back to it.
I had a similar experience but with eréctile disfunction and it got solved by paying more attention to the experience. And making an effort t directly deny those kind of thoughts.
It feels more difficult with delayed ejaculation though.

What I wil do is to keep at it, and keep trying to have good sex with my girlfriend. In case I start loosing sensitivity I’ll change positions or even start trying to connect with her though more kissing or focusing on my breathing.

I take this as something that it is not constant. One day I have great sex, other times things like this happen. What i’m Sure is good is to try connecting with the person you love even though there are disadvantages like these.

We can keep each other posted on this subject, I’m sure that with enough effort and focus on our girlfriends, this issue will go away. Wish you the best man!