Being used for sex

I would say that if the other person is only really interested in sex, they are not wanting a meaningful relationship at all. That being said, you may want or need to really decide if its worth your time and effort.

As for masturbation, it depends on your goals. I would think that it will not help the process at all. A hand is a hand.

 

WOW, when I was younger and big into porn and masturbation I would have thought that was the ideal partner, as with everything in life you need balance in relationships and communication in the end you have to do whats best for you . What do you think is best for you ?

 

The sexual being in me thinks that's the best problem one could ever have. Yet the more sensible side of me understands exactly what you mean but I digress

 

In a real relationship sex is only a part of the relationship. Family, friends, social life, other activities etc form the entire you.

Saying that, if you were to read the "5 languages of love" by Gary Chapman you will find out that "Physical Touch" for some people is the most important language. Physical touch could mean basically mostly sex. Therefore she is that type of person.

From personal experience my wife falls in that category and due to my PIED (day 59 of reboot) it is the thing that causes all of our fights. Hopefully the reboot fixes most of the performance issues and we can go back to a more normal relationship. Not her fault. She is being very patient with me for the last couple of years. I did not even know about Porn causing all of this problems until recently. After a couple of relapses now I am up to day 59. I'm planning to do the 90 day reboot and then assess as needed from there but PORN is not cpming back into my life. Masturbation hopefully will be a mute point once Sex with wife becomes my only source of gratification. Orgasms will probably be once every two weeks.

Best of luck to everyone.

 

I would think yes, it is still masturbation! It wont count as PM.
Note: But if you are entirely passive and NOT directing her 'how' she does it.... It might not be as harmful as doing it yourself.