180+ days success motivations and tips (helpful for Muslim fapstronauts)

Exactly.. May Allah help to be always on guard against the tricks of the shayaatheen of the jinn and mankind.. And May he help us against our on Nafs-al Ammaarah..

“Verily, Allaah will not changethe (good) condition of a people as long as they do not change their state (of goodness) themselves (by committing sins and by being ungrateful and disobedient to Allaah)” [al-Ra'd 13:11] May Allah help us..

Happy to hear that... May Allah protect you..

Wa iyyaak.. May Allah help us all to get rid of this filth..

I'm not worthy of being thanked my brother... May Allah help you and protect you.. and all of us...

Exactly..It's high time we leave this habit and become real human beings..

 

May Allah help us to be steadfast in whatever good we do.. Aameen..

I don't know the source of it. But I learned that from a credible scholar. What he was meaning is that the righteous people who died from our family can see what we do here. It is just a thought, to prevent ourselves from doing bad things in private, if we don't fear Allah even though he is the most deserving of being bashful of..

 

Allah SWT will forgive the sins as long as we seek forgiveness from him and until we insist on the sin... But that doesnot mean we won't have to suffer the consequences of the sin in this dunya. We should ask him to ease those consequences along with asking for forgiveness... Yes, the addicts do not have a perfect control over their own selves. But don't you think that the fear and love of Allah should be a motivation for us to work harder to cure our addiction? No pressure, no diamonds...

My personal opinion is that the best way for us Muslims to get rid of PMO is an 'Islam-centric' approach... Give more emphasis on our deen and our relationship with Allah (It's very hard for me myself.. I think the point is to work harder to get closer to Allah..). But effort is the key... Again.. No pressure, no diamonds.

 

For sure, brother...It just means that the deeds of the living are shown to the dead. And because of that, Abu’l-Darda’ RA used to say: “O Allaah, I seek refuge with You from doing any deed that would shame me before ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Rawaahah.” (look up https://islamqa.info/en/20820)
It's actually not alluding to any spiritual powers of them. And we don't believe that the dead can do anything for us.. May Allah protect us from every form of shirk...

Aameen.. May Allah make us all among those who excel in their obedience..

 

I believe one of the main actions that helped me is that I frequented the supplication:"Allahumma Yaa muqallibal quloob, thabbit qalbee alaa deenik" in most of my sujood. And I've tried to perform prayers in congregation
I've avoided all possibilities of triggers. And I've adapted my mind not to indulge in any form of fantasizing. As you go forward, it will become easier.
I'm memorizing Qur'an. So I know that anything inappropriate I see would make me forget what I've memorized. This thought has been a real motivation to keep my gaze low. I've established a goal called 'Clean Pixels' which I've been successful in implementing for the last 50 days or so.. It is to avoid everything useless on my screen. So- facebook, instagram, useless youtubing, random searching- all ended ..It brings real peace and calmness that I don't feel like getting back to them again..
In real life, I've taught myself that 'every second look is evil'- Something that I had no realization about the bad effects- especially because I'm coming from a culture where staring is okay.. I've been almost consistent in avoiding second looks at anyone without they knowing. (there were slip ups, but overall it goes well, Alhamdulillah)
If I can do it, everyone can, in shaa Allah. because my challenge was unique in many ways. My perversions and inclinations were insanely out of normal. I always feared that I will have to live like that. But I now realize that all those 'excessive libido' thing is complete BS. It's all PMO related. Save our mind from unnecessary thoughts. We shouldn't be harsh on ourselves. But should be hard on ourselves. No more easy going....

 

For the last two days, I really wanted to come here.. But I was too busy with a project that I couldn;t.. Contrary to all my expectations, all the urges were back for last two days. I never expected them to attack after this very long time- I think this is the first time in the 4 month streak. Began with a wet dream. I could hold myself from P or anything inappopriate without any glitch(Partially because, I've taken oaths). But I couldn't seriously keep my gaze low when I was outside. Now, it has subsided as I'm exhausted after a couple of days of continuous work and sleeplessness. Alhamdulillah... In fact, I didn't feel myself taking or viewing P, but there was a serious urge to do that or M. But whenever such thoughts peaked, I just closed my eyes, took some deep breaths, and told myself about the consequences of any such action. Later on, when I got enough time, I took some time to deconstruct my thoughts and eliminate those scenes...
But here I am, Alhamdulillah. One of the things that helped me was that I recently read this article in Yaqeen Institute website about the lost tradition of contemplation. It had an extensive description about our nafs, mind, heart, etc. Identifying thoughts on the basis of their origin really helps. But we just need to focus and deconstruct the convoluted strings to distinguish the satanic and angelic whispers and thoughts... If we can stop being influenced by 'Khawaatir'- the unintended, unprecedented flow of thoughts, then we will be able to deflect those urges, in shaa Allah. I literally smiled and said to my nafs :" you can try your best, but I'm not going along with it this time." I continued with my work and blasted Qur'an in my ears for hours..Muhammad Al Kurdi and Wadi Al Yamani- I love both of their Qiraa'..
And Alhamdulillah, I persisted. I hope, I can continue with more strength correcting my mistakes. So, the mistakes obviously are spiritual deficiencies,I realized. Again salaat ..

اتْلُ مَا أُوحِيَ إِلَيْكَ مِنَ الْكِتَابِ وَأَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ ۖ إِنَّ الصَّلَاةَ تَنْهَىٰ عَنِ الْفَحْشَاءِ وَالْمُنْكَرِ ۗ وَلَذِكْرُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ مَا تَصْنَعُونَ

Need to correct them as soon as possible, in shaa Allah. May Allah help and guide us all.. May he protect us from all the evil.

 

Give this a read, guys... It is really informative..https://yaqeeninstitute.org/en/zohair/the-lost-art-of-contemplation-spiritual-psychology-series/
And this one.. https://yaqeeninstitute.org/en/zohair/powerofmotivation/

 

One thing that really helped me is avoiding everything unnecessary- I would strongly suggest anyone to do the same. PMO addiction is a mental disease- as any addiction is. So we need our mind to settle down and rewire naturally. Avoiding movies, television, etc and getting back to your own selves with Qur'an and books, and using the computer just for academics and Islam, might be really really helpful- giving enough time and space for our messed up minds. I mean, the negative effects of movies, series, etc are really obvious- even if we justify to ourselves"Oh this one has just a little bit of inappropriateness, I will turn my face then"- If we think about it, it's clearly the trick of shaythaan. If you want to know whether it is or not, just listen to your heart before watching a movie or whatever- Listen to the different opinions inside your mind- distinguish them and identify the opinion of your fitrah. It will always be against. I personally have begun to believe that movies, series, and all those wasteful stuff are almost like Khamr/ alcohol- it has a little benefit in it,but the evil supersedes the good. So better not engage. This is just my opinion...

 

Keep yourself high in front of Allah... He is with you wherever you are.. Just think about it. He is closer to you than your jugular veins.. Do you want to meet him tomorrow with the burden of filth you did without having any bashfulness in front of him? He can see you, he knows what you even think.. So be stern. Keep the shayaatheen away. Command your nafs to obey your fitrah- your heart do not desire the evil, its' your nafs and the shayaatheen. Don't give them a pass. You are better than that.

 

Wa Alaikkumussalaam dear brother... Happy to hear about your determination...
May Allah protect you and every single one of us and keep us strong and steadfast in submission to him...

 

Let me share some of my realizations... The worst thing that can happen for a person who is trying to get closer to his Lord is heedlessness. We can become heedless even while we are observing the rights of Allah upon us. I have understood that very clearly. When I'm away from PMO and all the other distractions, shaythaan will try harder by attacking us while we are in the straight path. He understands that it's difficult to deviate us when we are committed. So he will try distract us and make us heedless or careless. If we follow This can lead us to fall back to our old ways..
The challenge I'm facing now is with my time. I'm not being able to manage my time properly...