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Hello Aram, welcome to Nofap.
As a person addicted to incest porn, I can understand what you're going through.
Anyway, glad you're here, and let's grow together.

"Fapstronauts of the world unite, we have nothing to lose but our chains"

 

i personally think that incest is some kind of mental disorder.
Nofap will definitely help but dont hesitate in going to a counsellor or reading books on how to overcome this mental disorder.

 

Hey man. Like you I was addicted to incest porn as well. Although, I did the 80 days no PMO in the first run but it was really difficult. I understand your need to respect women, be original to them and treat them as human being or a friend. I am still myself recovering from it. I had to develop will-power and motivation for it. In my case, I noticed that when I had success in abstaining from PMO i assumed I would interact with women just like I want to- with respect, grace about me but it is not the case. You have to develop a lot more. Self-discipline, self-confidence and self-esteem are really crucial. Just take it easy with women. Try to develop normal conversations. Understand their feelings. Understand how you feel. It will take an immense patience and self-awareness. You will have the power to do it IF you do it. You have already taken the baby steps.
Get yourself familiar with all of nofap. Try to come here everyday.

 

Your judgmental attitude is not wanted here. When you have spent time researching addiction (for example the Coolidge effect), come back and say something supportive. But telling someone in distress that they have a mental disorder and to go read a book to "overcome" it, is utterly unhelpful. This is Aram's first ever post. Show some support for God's sake.

 

Hi @Aram individuality, I appreciate your frank post and your self awareness, the clarity of where you want to be. I'm sure you know this but just a reminder that it is not just a fight but also a great learning, by self discovery we come to be in a better position to go beyond these things.

 

i am not being judgemental as i clearly wrote it was my personal opinion. you should learn to read a post carefully before replying.
and there is nothing wrong with seeing a counsellor or reading a book to overcome your flaws. i think you should stop being so judgemental about my advice to aram.
try to show some intelligence for god's sake !

 

Being judgmental is a subjective position to take, so of course it is your personal opinion (for what it's worth). Duh!

I did not say reading a book or seeing a counsellor is "wrong". If you read what I wrote (again), please note that I object to your judgment that watching incest porn is a "mental disorder". No, it is not. Which is why I encouraged you to educate yourself on the matter and even gave you an example of an area of reading that would enlighten you. Therefore, my response to you was both accurate and intelligent. Rather than protecting your personal pride, try to learn something.

 

Hello and welcome best wishes for you and your journey it’s nice that you are trying to take control of your life to make it better for yourself there are plenty of resources here and plenty of support

 

i dont know why you are so concerned with the fine line between judgement and opinion.
i agree that i can be a bit aggressive with my opinions but you know what ? that is exactly what is needed sometimes.
if someone had been " judgemental " with me about porn when i was in my early teens, i am sure i would have achieved alot more.
once again i am here to help and OP himself doesnt seem to be offended by my comments.
not trying to protect my personal pride but i just think you are being overly harsh on my advice ( especially when OP himself does not take any offence )

 

Yeah, fair enough Raymond. I can be the same with my opinions. As you say, sometimes that is exactly what is needed, but in this case I was over zealous. Sorry man.

 

Welcome Aram. ^That is a nice sentiment and we can do that here. In spite of our problems we can draw strength from the direction of travel - our journey of recovery. Try and get involved on the forums giving and receiving help. We need it man.

 

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it's all cool man...
i will also try to be less blunt with my words in the future.
good luck with overcoming the porn habit.

 

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