A Progressive Challenge-A different kind of challenge- all levels

9/10

 

Grats on 40 bro. How has the 40 days of no pmo been for you so far? easy/hard? have you had many urges?

 

38/90

 

Day 15/20..

 

Day 2 of 2. I have to guard myself and keep myself busy every minute so I don't do anything I will regret.

 

5/5. Next goal: 7 days. The yesteday´s depression is gone. I feel much better.

 

15/16 and another busy work day. Nothing planned tonight when I finish but will be vigilant.

 

I want to hit 21 days. Today is my first 1/21. Thank you everyone for the support I have already gotten. For everyone who is here I want to say I am proud with you all!

 

Wow man you are only one day away. You are an inspiration. I am really proud of you man!

 

3/6
Can't overcome procastination, either i will gaming 2 hours ++ or procastinating 2 hours ++...huffttt

 

Cheers thank you bud. Its been a tough process I started in October. Relapses etc but determined to do what I need to do to kick this.

 

1/1
1/2

Baby steps

 

3/4

Good to read all the positive messages and streaks lads. Appreciate it.

 

10/10. If I get through today, it will be my second time ever reaching ten days. My next challenge is 14. 10/14

 

Day 16/20..

 

Day 33 / 120 my wife and I are both doing this so it's going to really be kind of cool it's really awesome the beginning to realize how much you rely on your nether regions especially when you've been married for 33 years and you've had a behavior for over 45 anybody want to join me for the hundred and twenty to think you're man enough bring it

 

Day 3 of 4

 

Hard right, it's always hard, but I think it does get easier once you manage to get out of those crazy making first days where you are trying to break free from your dopamine addition and probably one of your main emotional coping mechanisms. Even if you feel you are going round a bit of relapse loop, you are still edging away, don't binge, aim for 24 hours, nobody I know of makes it first time but you CAN make it this time.

I still have urges but I think I'm slowly learning to put things on the other side of the seesaw, mainly a kinder a voice in my head, that isn't disgusted in me or my sex drive, doesn't shout, doesn't shame me, but can quietly lead me away and say where does that go? what's really at the end of that for you? I've done well on this streak in not engaging in p-subs, not edging.

Few other things:
Understanding yourself - https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-rider-and-the-elephant-metaphor - given any chance my elephant will try and run into the porn pit, being able to unmask that a bit has helped me see that despite feeling like it's what I want, it's not, and doing something else.
Meditation - I'm currently on a 22 day streak on Headspace. I've been doing 10 minutes a day. You can afford 10 minutes a day. It's a great investment. I can't explain exactly how it helps, but if porn has put some bad wiring in my brain meditation is putting good wiring in. There is lots a rigorous evidence go read it if you need convincing.
Exercise - I was never much of an exercise person but I signed up for a race and have been training 3 times a week.
Don't edge, keep away from p-subs - I used p-subs through all my other streaks. I read on the forum somewhere someone saying that if they edged one day they would relapse the following, that sounds so obvious now but it was like a light going on. For me it had always been about what can I get away with without out actually PMO and breaking my streak (what little amount of poison can I take?) this is obviously going to make it harder for yourself not easier, again be kind to yourself, don't tease yourself with where you do not want to go.
Use the panic button - sometimes my 'auto hands' have opened up a browser and I actually intend to p-sub or find porn. I open this site first, sometimes I log in to see who else has posted, sometimes I just hit the PANIC button, go back, hit it again, until I find something that reminds me how much happier I am without porn.

Thanks for asking, and thanks to everybody here for being here.

 

I'm on day 34 of 120 I'm doing really well I think the everything you said is is right on dude cuz right now they are just are easier but I think it's because of the repetitive mode that they come in and it's also just learning how to deal with them and remembering it is like a seesaw just get in the middle of the Seesaw so it's not so hard don't go at one end to the other so appreciate the words of wisdom bro I will follow you I am making to make it a hundred and twenty days and this is my first time around