Over two weeks no porn

no it makes nofap easier when you are more confident and self provident.(if you leave her)

 

You get advise yet you don't listen. you still want to have sex with her.. Even though i said not to do it.

 

Then get out of the situation, man. You don’t have to keep sleeping with her. You don’t even need to have any contact with her, nor should you frankly. It’s even worse considering she has kids. You’re literally the guy that “mommy” is banging behind “daddy’s” back.

 

My advise was not to see her anymore my advise was for you to leave her.

You are using her for sex and affection because you don't feel good about you'rself. You are using excuses to stay with her.

Bassicly you are staying in this "relationship" to feel good about you'rself withouth working at you'rself and building real confidence

 

You seem like a nice guy, but you should really heed the advice given by everyone here to stop seeing the woman, especially @kingpietro who is persevering to help you.

Perhaps that should be a goal than fapping, or add it as well.

 

Lie out of shame?

You are probably rather afraid that she will laugh or get upset.

But you know what honesty is a very sexy thing, believe me.

 

Many people get into relationships because they feel helpless alone, lack confidence, feel insecure, believe that they can not get anyone better, etc... Many people stay in relationships because they're afraid they'll never find anyone else, or they're afraid of their friends'/family's judgement should they get a divorce, or they stay together for the kids, etc...

People do not need (porn) addiction to make bad relationship choices.

So from my perspective it does not matter what you do in that regard (in mutual consent of course) . Just do what you feel necessary to get rid of your porn addiction, which seems exactly what you are doing. Great

You can always deal with bad relationship choices later (Or who knows, maybe you could have a good relationship with her over time.)

 

Hay Silverthorn A few years ago I got involved with a married woman. Their marriage ended because of me, she wanted to be with me. I justified it to myself because she said she was getting badly abused by her husband at the time (maybe it's true, maybe not). I just want to let you know that this path has no happy endings for anyone and from my experience it's very costly. We only stayed together for a couple of years. I lost friends because of it, I also carry the guilt even today. That's a black mark against my name in my mind and I wish I could go back and do things differently.

A few months back I had a female colleague confide in me that her relationship with her partner was bad, they would fight a lot. I won't lie I was attracted to her a lot and noticed she was moving closer to me (touching my hand, pressing herself up against me). But knowing what I had done before I talked, advise and help her to work things out with her partner. Yes I would have loved to have started seeing her but not at the cost of ruining a relationship. Not like I did before.

I usually always try and act as honorable and honest as possible. But I feel really bad for the marriage I helped broke up. Just thought I would give you my experience to help you friend.

 

you are using her for sex and affection because you feel bad about you'rself. you mentioned it you'rself you use her so you don't relapse to porn thats really bad behavior... you should be happy about you'rself withouth attention or sex.


You are in love thats why you thinx she is a good person but is she?
She cheats on her husband while she has kids. If you thinx she will leave him thinx again there are children it will take years before she will leave him.



Don't use you're irrational mind (emotions) but you're rational mind
read the book:
http://www.danielgoleman.info/topics/emotional-intelligence/

Worste advise ever. "Just do what you feel necessary to get rid of your porn addiction". Its like saying to a alcoholic maybe you should start doing crack at least you aren’t drinking.





having intercourse, and afection from a woman to make you'rself feel happy and fulfilt in life even though its a unhealthy situation IS NOT A GOOD THING.

you should be happy about youre self withouth the attention of other people . its called emotional self sufficient


Losing porn but substituting it with unhealthy relationships is not a good thing. Also craving sex, and affection to so you don’t relapse to porn is a bad thing.

You should be able to be happy without affection.

I guess people thinx this is a succes story he quit porn and now he is banging a hot MILF with children damn good job

 

Hey Bro, do what is best for you man~ When time comes, learn from your mistakes and move on. Sometimes, it is necessary to learn mistakes from a hard way.