So i just relapsed, what now?

That's just a restart man, just reset your counter and start over again... now did lose all your process? No, 23 days is something to be proud and they were days were you were free from porn, so that's a win.

The chaser effect is a desire to fap even more after sexual release so if you PMO is quite likely to do that again in the following days, especially if you're just beggining NoFap.

My advice... don't beat yourself over it, failure is just a part of success and you're in a process of healing so don't mind the streak too much and focus on the present and what you can do to improve your situation.

I hope this can be of help brother and I wish you the best of luck.

 

Hi,
Congratulations for the good score. Don't start from 0. Make it 90-1 streak. Don't loose hope. We all are doing same mistakes that is we all are concentrating on x days. No, it's totally wrong. Concentrate on how much you are making distance from porn. Previously you used to watch daily but now you have watched after 23 days it's great victory. Common dear! You have to appreciate your self. Let's reach 90 days. 1 or 2 failures are common. I'm not cooperating to watch porn but we all should be work hard on each relapse as it is the correct time to think about our weaknesses and triggers. Next time if you not fall in the trap in the same way then you made a good strategy. Hmm... i think you are capable of 23 days, lets make more after this relapse. Sometimes Failure is good. Again, Concentrate on the distance between you and porn, Instead of x days with no PMO. Lets make 90-1.

 

I'm not sure about this counting-the-days thing. Count the quality of your life. If your life is less stupid, dirty, lazy than yesterday, good. Good luck.

 

Yes, you are correct but sometimes counting the days also required to track our level of addiction. If there is a goal then the game will be interesting. By achieving small goals to big we can win the game easily. Nofap also is like a game, hero has to escape from the trap. Once we have control over the addiction then days doesn't matter as you said. But for every exam there should be some marks or value which indirectly help us

 

hi,

I have been struggling more than i would like to admit, I just relapsed today after only a three day streak after another relapse and I just want to breath and calm myself, and meditate, and also recognize here, now, that this is really hurting me, destabilizing my life and creating lots of fear and pain in me. I know that having a strong reflection about how my addiction is painful and harmful doesnt make it go away, but I want to be accountable and be humble and do what I can to start again and let go of this habit and move on with my life. I need to heal and that I see will mean me loving myself and truly finding myself outside of this addiction

 

Well done on three days. Don't forget to give yourself credit. I think it's probably crucial to put other stuff in place to fill the gap left by no pornography or wanking, so at least get one new habit. Running? Learning something? You get the idea. Good luck.

 

I can relate to it. Listen, our porn pathways are so strong. They can't give up easily. Think, we have been feeding porn for years. In our brain, porn is top pleasure. No other pleasures compete it.You are not alone.
Let me relate it to my story....
I used to watch porn daily ,tried all the ways to come out. Just like, getting knowledge on porn movies how they are created, edited, surgeries.yuck! all are lies nothing similar to real relationship and sex. Every year so many guys dying cause of diseases and drugs. I have also read Bible, Quran to know what is the purpose of sex, both scripture said same that sex creates a strong bond between husband and wife etc..so much information are there, it's awesome. So I had got something big to think and fight. I had made 50 day streak ,relapses again, then 30 days, then relapses and almost I had lost hope and started watching porn. If I was not watch then i would get anger and frustration.
Now comming to the present, 21 days ago, something came across. I find out something interesting, i understand that my porn time is starts at night. so morning, when I'm in office I never thought about porn. why can't I use that time for something different. So in whole day morning,afternoon, evening I take out some free time I used to read about good articles on the addiction,it's lies,destructions etc..so in this way I started exercise to boost my prefrontal brain and now i made 21 days streak. This time i will make 90 days. I'm sure i won't die if i not watch porn. Instead it will increase life span. Yes, daily i go to gym and do all the things.
So what i mean to say is, find your weaknesses and strengths. What time you are weak and strong. most importantly when you relapse analyse them. Don't give up. Try again try till you get the solution, try till you die.We have to feed our brain porn consequences whether it listen or not. AND You need something so strong to break the strongest addiction.may be your case is differnet So find your solution. Find till die but don't loose hope, even if the death come atleast we have a satisfaction that we had tried.

 

Very nice sayings. I told myself, I don't mind the damage porn has done to me, I don't mind how it has become a source of happiness to me. I have to break this addiction or die trying. It not easy when the urge to relapse comes. It not easy when you are days into nofap and the desire to watch porn comes, sometimes my body vibrates if I resist.

But look at the situation well. We all don't know when we will die, are we going to be fappers till we die? Is the addiction that strong or is the weakness in us? Are we really happy doing this and feeling sick snd weak always after doing it? Are we so sick in the brain that we can't simply not do what we actually don't want to do? Are we okay with not being able to erect for a real woman?
We can ask ourselves so many questions.
We really have to fight some more. WE WERE BORN FOR SOMETHING BETTER and porn won't allow that to happen.

It not going to be easy at all. Even a day without PMO is a victory, let start seeing things that way. Celebrate every victory.
Last 3 days I almost relapsed. The urge to watch porn was strong. I could feel all the part I touch to masturbate feeling itchy and needing a scratch or touch and I could feel my body getting ready for a release but the only thing that helped me was

1. I remembered the health condition this thing puts me so I wasn't ready for that.
2. I remembered my promise in NoFap page
3. And the strongest of them all was that, I remembered I was going to feel like an absolute looser and feel sick and weak for days to come which also takes me closer to death everyday. And also I was going to be sadder

So I was able to forget about the urge and continued to sleep.

Woke up with anxeity and sadness. But I know it the side effect of quiting. Im really targeting 30 days this time around.

 

Thanks. Good questions. In this nofap journey don't use one weapon, keep so many powerful weapons with you. Like, do work out, involve in some productive work, spend time with family instead of materials, take god help, read scripture, feel the nature, gather information, understand the consequences of all adictions, increase the quality of your life, give more respects to women (whether they are good or bad), change bad behaviour, build a good character. Try to make life more more perfect. I know it's never perfect but try. If we not try, it mean we are opening devil's door. Till you are trying, you are in safe.
Most importantly, stay in public as much as, but don't stay alone till you get cure.

 

I am about one week free and I want to just say that I am going to keep going, I am feeling strong and more sensitive, I am aware of the guilt and shame that is exposed in this abstainance but I want to badly to be brave and keep going forever and to learn and be corageous and take on the future with a healthier more nuanced and generous way about life that is sober from porn and cyber sex. Love to all, keep healing!

 

You will be ok man. Drop the guilt and just get a new habit. A good one. You can do it!

 

1. Recognize that you are on the right track
2. Identify what triggered you
3. Set you next reachable goal
4. Download the app "Reboot"
5. Pick yourself up brother and contact me if you need help.

 

That's a no-nonsense post. Good

 

Amigo un saludo, primero felicito tu actitud, el objetivo de todos nosotros es derrotar esta adicción y alcanzar la felicidad, yo estoy hace pocos días en este sitio porque al igual que tu busco salir de este mal habito yo diría enfermedad, yo también el día de hoy recaí después de solo 7 días de abstinencia, se me ha echo prácticamente un verdadero reto superar esa racha, pero nuevamente toca comenzar con esta batalla para seguir mejorando, te deseo suerte en tu proceso y mil bendiciones!!!...