Solving the underlying problem to quit longterm

For me the underlying problem was insecurity about my body and my penis, which lead to me avoiding women and sex for much of my youth. When i did have S encounters i was so anxious about myself i would get ED.
I used P as a way to try and escape from that reality everyday, this lead to extreme depression and loneliness.

In the end i pulled myself together and did some research and found out about jelqing.
I committed 6 months to increasing size and had significant gains (this may not work for everyone). I combined this with a fairly strict gym routine and this gave me the confidence to go out and meet women. In the end i might a girl and we stayed together for 4 years and i was happy, the depression was gone and my addiction to P disappeared for the majority of those 4 years. I also had no ED problems as i was completely comfortable around her.

Unfortunately i lost my job and had some health problems this year that led me to get back into the P and i lost my partner because of it. My willpower gave in but i know i can quit as i have done before.

Long winded i know but if you can figure out what the root cause is it can go a long way to not just quitting but forgetting about P altogether. I dont think it is sustainable to just count your days of not watching P and not make significant changes to your life.

(i'm on the good side of average btw)

 

thanks mate appreciate it, seems like were both heading in the right direction. Yeah working out has definitely done a lot for the confidence and the the jelqing gave me a 1" bump in my length stats which further helped me. A slow process but if you are consistent it definitely works. Yeah porn gives you a warped sense of reality. Good luck with your recovery bud.

 

Yeah porn gave me a real warped sense of sex in general, i feel sorry for the next generation as i imagine it's only going to get worse with how accessible it has become and the use of VR and ultra HD. Good luck with recovery mate.