im pretty sure this new desire of mine is a symptom of porn tolerance, but lately I’ve been really thinking about getting a hidden camera to spy on my wives friends and my sister in law... I think regular porn isn’t producing the same amount of dopamine it used to so my mind is coming up with new things. I have to convince myself that this is wrong. It’s as if I don’t see anything wrong with spying on people I know and people that care about me and trust me. What’s wrong with me?
Yep, that's your porn brain escalating what it wants. Good job on recognizing it's wrong before you did something that could get you in serious trouble.
ya, very bad idea, you hear about hidden cameras in airBnB's all the time, you do not want to be one of those guys,, GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF CAPTAIN !!,
Read this: https://torontolife.com/city/queen-west-voyeur/ The article shows how this sort of thing can bring pain to the person does the filming and those are filmed. And even if you aren't caught do you really want to spend your time doing something like that. The number of hours it will take up of your time would be ridiculous.
Wow, how sad. Hope OP reads the whole article. Guy not only used hidden cameras but his victims were women who completed trusted him with their deepest secrets. He betrayed their trust.
Yeah, and his life didn't get better from it either. I don't want to say it destroyed the women because hopefully, they'll be able to rebuild their lives. As for the voyeur, his life really sucks now. Don't know if he'll ever enjoy life now. One thing about the article that made me think is the amount of time and energy he put into doing it. He could have been doing something more worthwhile instead. Hope @Musicmaster reads the whole article.
I will read the article. Thank you everybody, sometimes it just takes some reasoning from the outside to whip somebody back into reality
Unfortunately this was one of y favorite categories to visit on what was my favorite p site. I believe it’s a addiction all on its own. So scary to be attracted to it.
I agree. I’m glad all of you are here to talk some sense into me. I read that article, I don’t want to hurt my friends or my wife
As someone that had this done to them, I beg you not to do it. Your victim(s) will never be the same people as they once were. Don't rob them of a life they deserve. Also, it's a felony.
*standing ovation* I completely forgot about Erin Andrews...now that's a strong woman. To continue to be a public figure after being secretly recorded is the epitome of knowing your self-worth & strength. She might be my new hero.. Last night, as a mother, I joyously got my children in their costumes, ready to go get that Halloween candy. I wasn't thinking of being secretly videoed; I was happy. Those moments are often short lived. I walked my kids across the street to our neighbors (great family), & as we were leaving, the dad said "we'll talk later, or we can just wave from our windows". His comment was towards my kids, as they do often scream from our windows to him if he's outside. However, as a victim, what I heard when he said this non-harmful comment was, "I look in your windows". It took everything in me not to fall apart; for my children. I know he didn't mean a thing by his comment. This is unfortunately how victims have to spend their lives; always assuming they're being watched. Sad. I'm one of the strong ones; I shudder to think of the woman who aren't as strong. I'm positive some have even taken their own lives because of this happening to them. Somebody has lost their daughter to suicide because she was videoed against her knowledge. Sobering thought.
Are you in therapy? You are acknowledging your problem, which is an awesome start, but this kind of "fetish" can only be stopped by either 1) going to prison or 2) psychotherapy or some other kind of therapy It's fixable, if you want to fix it.
I found out recently that when we were first dating my husband secretly took a photo of me naked when I was passed out. It was a very graphic photo that I won’t describe because it might be a trigger. He doesn’t have a problem at all. Eyeroll.
It can also be OCD - "Pure O" - intrusive thoughts all over your mind. It is quite common OCD, even it is the most difficult one to handle by the human. People with this OCD are real heroes, as they have the extreme fight within themselves and they feel much worse about themselves as any fapping and porning person ever. It comes with stupid thoughts against your close ones. It also comes up with thoughts of killing them and that will make you really sweating and a person can be extremely upset and disgusted by those thoughts. But if you understand the root of that OCD you are ok with it and you accepting yourself fully as you know you will never do it. But it will be on your mind. Of course, it can be anything else, I just said a bit of my knowledge.
What on earth makes you think that going to prison stops this kind of "fetish"? It's an addiction, just like every other kind of porn or detrimental sexual behavior. Nobody chooses what kind of material is going to be most arousing for them, except in the passive sense - you see it, it arouses you, and you pursue it without thinking about the long-term consequences. I started out with regular soft-core magazines, because that's all that was available when I was a teenager. But after years of refining my tastes by thoughtless use, I can only get off on things that my sober, un-aroused mind finds disgusting and morally repugnant. Including voyeurism, though that is by no means the worst. I've never filmed anyone without their consent, and even when they consent I make sure not to capture their face, just in case. But I have looked at thousands of strangers who never consented to my enjoyment of them. And I always feel really bad afterwards. And then I do it again, because that's how addiction works. I've tried both of the methods that @cakeinacrisis suggests, and I can assure you, neither of them were successful. When you spend 20+ years hiding from your feelings through compulsive masturbation, you're not going to fix it by lying on a couch and talking about your mother. Or by spending 3 years in a 6-by-10 concrete box with a 300-lb cellmate. At least, that's my personal experience.