How do you know if you are healed?

You are doing fine ! See it as an process and your behavior and vision will change. Last night I had a dream full with P but I didn't give in. I think it is just my brain that wants high levels of dopamine and he knows that P was giving that, thats why he let me see it in my dreams. During the day my conscious mind knows that I am in control. I guess you can understand this too. Your wet dream is just ok your body is letting you know that it is dumping sperm (healthy reaction if you are nonsexual). What is helping me (this is my second attempt to quit) is that I now see PM as a bad thing and want to stop forever. In my first attempt I was just counting the days till 20 or so and always knew that I would watch P once again. Morning wood is also just your body that is becoming high sensitive to ''Light sexual" stuff and that is great for the future right? Know that healing is just mental it is all in your head you just need to get positive vibes from quitting and learn from your past. I hope this helped you out.

 

Hey guys ! I relate to what you're saying, did not have any wet dreams myself (in fact I never did even before starting non-PMO), but I had recently dreams in which I was seeing P scenes.

I also dreamt about M-ing, and I remember telling myself in the dream : "ow man, did I just M-ed?" and I was feeling disappointed. Hopefully, I woke up and it took me several seconds to realize I didn't M-ed nor watched P...that was a relief. But I guess what you say @trainharder2018 makes sense : the brain knows P used to give it huge peaks of dopamine and it is playing tricks to make you remind that. During the day I feel total control and at night, the subconscious mind tries to take over. Morning wood is shyly back so I think all of this is a sign of evolution and perhaps the end of my long flatline period, we'll see ! Most important is that I feel in control ! Glad to know you guys do as well.

@Yuro1111 I think these are encouraging signs you are witnessing. Especially the sensitivity to light sexual context. I get the fear you have about your erection. My own issue is not so much getting erect than suffering from delayed/impossible ejaculation. I've had a lot of bad experiences leading me to avoid sex at some point. I thought about it and one day I remembered a time when I was 16, having never watched P. I was in a summer camp and one night we had to get dressed for a fancy evening. Two girls then grabbed me and dragged me to their room to get my hair in shape and I remembered having had the hardest erection ever as soon as their hands touched my arms, it was embarrassing and I was fearing everyone in the corridors would notice ! So to me, that's the ultimate point I want to reach with this healing process. Getting back to a place where a simple touch from a girl can give me a huge wood haha. I chose to consider this as a measurement of my progress and perhaps the sign I'm healed when I reach it.

 

Depends on your time how long you've been doing PMO. Some people need a half year, some people need at least 3 years. 90 days is a nice try but regarding healing, it doesn't mean anything really. 90 days is good for somebody who is 16 years old and doing PMO for 2 years max. For him, it could eventually work.

Also depends how strong emotional trauma you have experienced in your childhood and how strong you are disconnected from yourself, that means how strong addictive personality you have. For addictive personality there is much more deep self-work required as only abstaining from PMO, otherwise, people will get back to PMO even after the long years of abstaining as the addictive pattern wasn't healed.

 

Don’t be afraid I already tried to quit multiple times (more to see how I would react) before I became a Fapstronaut and what I can say is that everything is always working it all is just a mental game. Why would it stop working if you haven’t had problems yet? Your mind isn’t thinking hey you’re stoping PM now I will break your penis like a sort of punishment.

So if I was you I would stop worrying about that. I am not afraid for flatline just let your body handle things.

I do believe in the words 4Dcreator said: For addictive personality there is much more deepself-work required as only abstainingfrom PMO, otherwise, people will getback to PMO even after the long yearsof abstaining as the addictive patternwasn't healed.

However, your body will respond in a healthy way towards light sexual content. After 90 days you will for sure be high sensitive for sexual content and girls in general, that is what I believe.

 

Hey @trainharder2018 I agree also with the statement about deepself work required beyond abstinence. Abstinence is not enought. From what I read, breaking an addiction also means changing your way of life and involve in healthier endeavors and habits. But what's cool about it is that undertaking such a transformation, provided you have powerful enough reasons to do so and to support your efforts, actually gives you momentum to do other things. Since I started my streak, I started piano which I had been postponing for years, joined a webzine for which I write articles and do interviews, I went back to singing lessons etc...my point is I believe one should use from day 1 the energy that comes from committing to quit and redirect it towards projects one has been having in mind for a while without having acted upon it so far. Those activities aside from developing yourself, which is enough already, also act as a safety net against relapse since they keep your mind and body active and busy.