35 and Older Accountability Group

Thanks guys! That's motivating!

 

Ouch, get well soon!

And, wow, Uruguay! I love that country. Are you from Montevideo? Have been there several times and yearn for coming back...

 

Feeling good for the first time in a long time. Significantly reduced internet consumption and spending more time at home with family.

 

Great going @Berry F
I too feel that my thoughts are calming down since last few days.
Meaningful, easy and tasks that we have passion about and bring us joy!! - well said.

 

Your counter is an inspiration to me and others too am sure. Stay strong and committed!

 

Every day its a great idea man! here first, read, write, check in, then if you feel the urges go, but come here first.

 

Nope. I´ve moved all around, just chose Uruguay because its quiet. I love nature and being alone, this is a great country for that.

 

We all know that "ugh" feeling for sure. I found that in the early days of a streak not wanting to feel "ugh" was a more powerful motivator than wanting to feel all the benefits. The benefits are far off whereas "ugh" is very real.

 

Clicked like for 'Back up'

Yes. It's important to check in every day. I personally do it first thing every morning with my coffee. It's a great way to set the tone for the rest of the day.

 

That is a great suggestion. I should take up ukele since I have one, albeit, a cheap one laying around.

 

Sounds like a great morning ritual!

Coffee
First 24hrs

My plan today is to sit down and structure a daily plan from start to finish. I feel my addiction thrives when things are haphazard and chaotic.

 

Yes, I get anxiety over this sometimes. I start thinking about how old I am and if I’ll ever find someone. The unknown nature of the future can pull us into either a sense of fear or a sense of adventure; the former deals with an attachment to a certain desire/outlook while the latter, I believe, thrives off of a detachment toward your own desires/outlook. I think the important thing for me is the detachment; the ability to still try for what I desire, but to be able accept if it’s not meant to be. How much of our happiness is caused by external factors and how much is actually a conscious decision on our part? Have you ever gotten something you’ve always wanted and been disappointed?

I don’t want a relationship status or lackthereof to define my self-worth. I’ve lived that life before with someone and it was hell.

 

Day one...
Sounds like a chapter from a post apocalyptic book or moovie . lol

 

May I join? I'm on day 10 (PM)...

 

I would like to join too. I'm 38, married, and have a great sex life with my wife when I can refrain. This last month I've been stressed about the holidays and fell hard on my addiction. No sex with wife for like 30 days. This has been an ongoing problem in my marriage and my wife is aware, hurt, and angry.

I'm on day 3. Going PM level, and my goal is 90 days, with a secondary goal of reconnecting with my wife who feels that I am "cheating" with myself on her. It's true that I've felt extremely disconnected from her over the holidays. Don't want a divorce, but my wife is miserable and fed-up. Confessed what was going on and it made her angrier. So yeah... shit...

 

Yes Please