The 2019 X90 Hard Mode High Accountability Elimination Challenge

Not sure if it is easier for women but for guys HORNINES is different. She came in dressed in a causal tank up, just a bit of cleavage but nothing too exposing. She is pretty, good figure and I had a bit of crush on her for some time but nothing serious. BUt since I started NOFap every pretty woman or even decently looking girl and my hormones are going on overdrive. I can reasonably insulate myself as I am preparing for an exam but since they are coming over, I can avoid them. We have friends and she is casually touchy feely like all friends but now her touch is making me wanna kiss her, her smell is making me brush my fingers on her arms. Just need to remind myself I am in control of myself. FUnny part is before this I have never seen her in a very sexual manner, just liked her funny bubbly nature. BUt she is a friend and someone's wife. I am in control. Thanks for all the advice guys. and girls.

 

Hey dont doubt the struggle. It is real and yes I agree it is inward. It is easy for to start of jerking off I guess and release the beast building inside. We did not think too much of it until now.

 

Thanks for sharing Fleurette! Really interesting to hear it from your perspective.

The conclusion I draw is that although the addiction takes form in different ways for all of us (regardless of gender), the underlying cause is very similar: to cope with life (negative emotions, stress, fear of being alone, need for connection etc.) by distracting ourselves with sexual release.

Then there's the biological aspect: sex is just as natural as food and both can be healthy activities when pursued as such. The problem arises when the craving for a natural stimuli becomes compulsive and its rewards are used as "fixes" to make us feel better; when people overeat because they're stressed or turn to PMO because they're bored. We all need to learn to handle the reality of everyday life without using stimulants. Whether that stimulant is bearded men with deep voices or married women in tank tops differs from person to person, but the underlying addiction we are dealing with is the same.

 

Day 16, Check In.
Doing good still I guess. I just ahd a little moment with my laptop, going through movie files my dad have inside his external hard drive. Nothing pornographic, but some movies, like many nowadays, have those scenes where women's breast are showing. Dang it, why do they even do that?! Well, my father for sure don't even know about them, he just downloads a lot of stuff into the drive.
Anyways, I can't deny that I would like to indulge in them, I was tempted so bad. Especially there are a lot of hard things going on. But of course I have to close & delete them.
Our addictions really are just our way of coping with difficulties, and a terrible way at that. Hmmm.
I'll do better next time.

 

Day 17/90 Still going strong, been consistently going to the gym and running which keeps my mind off PMO. This is probably my longest streak, definitely want to keep it up and make this a long term change, honestly feel great from no PMO. One day at a time though.

Keep it up everyone!
18.8% of the challenge already complete.

 

Day 12 no PMO. I had a seriously close moment in the evening though, it wasn't even that the craving was that bad, I was just unmotivated so didn't have much energy to handle it. But made it through!

 

Day 1 of 90

I failed after my first try which was 8 days. Now, thanks to this thread and thanks to the lessons learnt from my fail, I believe I can make it up to 90 days without PM.

Stay strong.

Count me in.

 

Day 9 checking in. Im pressing that panic button quiet often lately haha but it works.

 

That's the attitude, brother. You are right. We must not be discouraged by our mistakes, but learn from them.

 

Thanks, man. I appreciate it.
And as a celebration, I'll go to school, do awesome there, and indulge in the good feeling that I have accomplished something good today.

 

Checking in day 17

 

Had a rough day yesterday, had some conflict about dishonesty that made me feel bad, also drank way too much coffee which made me feel sick and almost gave into my mind tricking me into thinking porn would fix it. But I didn't gave in and want to check in for day 7 today!

 

Day 18/90 Checking in, Still going strong No PMO, starting to actively avoid anything that would have triggered me in the past to want to watch Porn or MO. I've learned so much from each past failures makes No PMO more and more possible.