I don't get urges anymore, but my brain has a habit to PMO for the 'fix' even when not horny!

I myself, man, have acted on feelings for a long time. I naturally said, "I feel this way, therefore ..." when really I chose to act on the feeling. My point for saying that is that habits are hard to break at times, just like getting bubble-gum out of someone's hair is. These things take time, and like one can build a bad habit so can one build a good one. Agreed?

I say this as encouragement, for these problems are fixable, but they take time. Patience is needed, and patience isn't how long you can wait but what you do while waiting, keep that in mind. I say this, because a lot of our thoughts mess us up, and what we do with them matters a lot. Be sure to continue to do your research and learn the truth. What really all this stuff messes up is our real relationships with people and the world around us, with our families, our pets, all of these other things.

As "weird" as it sounds when I did all of this PMO junk it made 'normal' "weird" for me and vice-versa, which messed me up bad, man. I say this, because it's when we start focusing on the real "normal" and changing our thoughts, which change our reactions, that our life really starts to change, because like tennis balls fly out of the machine and bullets out of a gun so do we load ammo into our heart and it comes out as actions into our life.

Peace!

 

Yep. Have done that in the past.

Totally bored, not horny at all, but by default the mindset is “Watch Porn and Jack” since I’ve nothing better to do.

 

A: 'I'm bored, so I'll do something sexual'.
B: 'Now I'm horny'.

I've done that a few thousand times.

 

Yep. And in addition, I’ve gone from being not horny to an hours long porn binge when I could have been doing something better.

 

Great picture at the end, yeah you are on point with everything you said. Just because we have no urges the habit and mindset is still there. I have no urges but the mind goes to past images and makes me think I need to do it.

You are right that it takes time. Sexual addiction can take up to three years to get better. That is actually working on everything about ourselves. Meditation, exercise, socializing, work, etc.

 

This is a helpful thread! Thanks.