Why do they say sex is disappointing

Good question. Here’s a post about that subject which was put up this past Sunday.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/had-sex-for-the-first-time.240096/

 

Yeah, for me it was disappointing at first for two main reasons:
1) I had accustomed my penis thothe "death grip" which reduced my penis nerve sensitivity due to rough masturbation, so sliding in and out of a vagina was sadly not as stimulating as I hoped it would (at first).
2) I was used to being visually stimulated by an endless entourage of beautiful women in a variety of settings on demand. (Very different to actually being intimate with a woman).

What I did learn was that the longer I refrained from masturbating to porn, the better the sex was in my experience.

 

Because they haven't had good sex yet

 

I guess it's because porn isn't a realistic depiction of how sex between normal adults is. In porn the woman (or women) are there to please the man and are willing to do anything. In real life it's not always like that. The woman has feelings and needs too. It doesn't just slip in like in the videos! She needs to be warmed up first. Guess what? She might not actually like it up the arse like you see in the videos. The people you see in porn are usually actors and they may not actually be enjoying it as much as it seems. Sex with a real person will generally be slower, less intense and less adventurous compared to what you see in porn (depending on the woman of course).

 

Going by your profile, you are 13 years old. You are in the period of your life where you have a great opportunity to build self-control and learn to deny yourself instant gratification, especially in the area of sex. If you can learn to do this now, then your first sexual experience with a woman (hopefully one you are married to, although I realize this is seldom the norm any longer) does not need to be disappointing.

It is entirely up to you what sort of man you will decide to become. Will you cultivate love and peace and self-sacrifice within your heart? Will you learn to discipline yourself and deny yourself pleasure in the moment in order to experience far greater in the future? Or will you become just another PMO zombie?

I have two sons just about your age, and what I want for them is exactly what I have outlined here and what I want for you. The world is in short supply of real, loving men at the moment. It sure could use a few more. I hope you will choose wisely. I am cheering you on.

 

That's the same issue with watching TV Series about highschool where everybody is cool and everything is lit only to enter highschool yourself to find out that not everything is all that great and over the top.
We consume media exactly because it delivers us things that reality never could. If reality was as great as TV/porn etc.. we would have no reason to watch it but rather do it ourselves.
With our consuming of media/porn our expectations for reality grow exponentially, but of course those will never be fullfilled.

And that there is your answer. They thought it "wasn't that great" because their expectations were way too high, because they confused media-fantasies with reality.

EDIT: Also you should probably not use a real pic of yourself on an internet platform that is dedicated to recovering from porn abuse. Chances are, if some of your classmates friends etc... found out it would stigmatize you for life. At least that is my opinion. Kids you age can be quite cruel.

 

Casual sex ist naturally disappointing. Only have this experience with a girl you have good chemistry with. Some passion (or infatuation) helps a lot. It also helps with other kinds of intimacy (kissing, cuddling, caressing), which are underestimated compared to the act itself, because it doesn't happen in porn.

 

It's when you masturbate hard with your hands just so you can climax, pretty much you can desensitize yourself from over masturbating. lol

 

It's when you grip it too hard and damage the nerves in your penis.