no desire for anything?

couple questions, how is your eating?, what things are you doing to improve yourself?, are you doing hobbies?. I had a time like that where i was 3 weeks in and i had no urges or anything, and than it hit me like a train.

 

OOOPS, Watch out buddy it's around the corner waiting to stab you in the back while you are oblivious. Now it's the time to really focus and become more observant so that you can handle it in the best way possible when it suddenly strikes you.

in regards to benefits, you really need to set a healthy, Purposeful and enjoyable schedule/routine, for example, start chasing a dream, Get Better at what you currently do, pick up a hobby.

 

You are in a flatline. It's a phase, you feel your libido death, but you are reseting your brain. Stay alert, and do things for achieve your goals.

 

talking from experience i will say that i never truly felt good or started recovering until i got into healthy eating, its one of the most vital keys to nofap success and i would highly recommend you look into it.

 

This is the scariest part of nofap. You must force yourself to take cold showers, workout, and try to learn new things at work and in your spare time keeping yourself busy. Do not mess this up by edging or touching yourself to see if your penis still works! It does I promise you!

Keep yourself away from TV shows with sexual content. I have relapsed during the flatline before like this.

 

How do cold showers work? I have seen this in several forums.

 

dude, im literally going through the same thing as you, i have no f'[ng idea whats going on, but this sucks, i'd rather justn fap tbh, i just wrote out a huge summary ---->>>>''
I just recently found nofap, been going through a lot lately, hit 30, jobless, back at home with my mother, in debt, gained 100 lbs, single... ect.. So lots of reasons to feel like a fat fucking failure... That, and the fact that i have no idea where i'm going with my life.
I used to be a ''party'' guy, lots of booze, drugs, sex... not motley crew levels, but pretty heavy, until about 2 weeks before my 26th birthday (i od'd) I dropped everything and i've been doing nothing but watching porn, jerking it, and stuffing my face since. Anyways, i think i hit a point of utter disgust, hopelessness and self loathing about three weeks ago. Everything came crashing down, i was forced to leave my shady comfort zone when it was announced on short notice we'd be moving to a different apartment... in a completely different city. This being the obvious ''smack in the head'' got me to thinking how far behind i've fallen (allowed myself to fall.) All my friend (the one's who aren't total skids) are moving on, having babies, finding their careers/profession...
Needless to say, i'm nowhere even remotely close to the success/personal development these people have created for themselves. I feel like a fucking idiot.
So, anyways in a dramatic act of desperation i scrolled my way through the internet searching for something other than T&A, a solution!
I wasn't sure what i'd come up with, maybe some self help book? seminar? course on how to develop a personal action plan? I read and watched, and tbh most of the crap i found seemed a little scamy, upbeat, and peptalk-ish to me.
But then there was nofap, i don't necessarily believe all of the ''super powers'' but i thought any benefits would be good.
I liked the idea of the dopamine neurogenisis, and the cerebral androgen receptors re-connection with testosterone leading to a boost in mood, energy, mental clarity, and creativity. I read that i would feel urges for the first few weeks, the hit some flatline, then all of a sudden begin to feel amazing... I don't, and here's the problem.
I'm currently on day 20 and i haven't had a single urge, not one boner, my mind is sludge, i'm completely unmotivated (more than fapping everyday) and i'm having the darkest depressive thoughts i've ever experienced. I've never been a ''suicidal'' type of person, but the last few days it keeps coming up.''

 

I'm in the same boat. I mean, most women look a good 3 points higher than normal since it feels like it's been so long but at the moment (~15 days hardmode) it's been a little too easy.

 

I had the luck of briefly having 'superpowers' for a bit, so I've also tasted the upside. But currently flatlining as well and it's pretty shitty.

I think a lot of the anxiety and sadness around flatline is caused by shame and worry that you'll never be sexual again. But part of it is training your mind that sex is not constantly available, nor should be. As one fapstronaut said, an orgasm is no longer two strokes away. So when you're going through these changes, your mindset hasn't adapted yet.

If you aren't having urges and nofap is easy for you as a result, then good! It means you're finally learning that sex isn't everything. Use the opportunity to focus on other stuff. Go take some cooking class.

 

Patience is a virtue. Lack of interest is called anhedonia and is a byproduct of D2 receptors deficiency common to all dopamine related addictions and addictive behaviors. It takes time to regrowth receptors to baseline. Up to 2 years but usually less. I got some relieve around 5-6 months into recovery. You can find whole video lecture here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/hopeless-case-searching-for-hope.187822/page-18

 

I hope this is true! While my PM problem has never been too severe (I typically only PMO'd about once a day at my peak with my record probably being 3 or 4 times in a day) and I've never really been into any taboo material, I still hope that my recovery is more towards the shorter side. I'm still relatively young and want to capitalize on my energy with other people while I can.