Started a high-stress job last Sunday...

Sorry Scote, high stress jobs are tough emotionally and physically... Are you getting out after work? Just a walk? Call a friend? I really appreciated meditation at certain times when stress was crushing on me. Just sitting and relaxing emotionally and physically. Clearing the thoughts of work from my kind.

Take care of yourself... Eat right, exercise... All the good things you deserve.

 

Years ago I was in a stressful job, for 12 years I could keep the stress manageable. Then changes at home made things more stressful there too. I was in a lose-lose situation, stress firing at me from different angles. Someone close to me explained that you have a stress limit. She explained that because, prior to the home stress, I was able to enjoy a relatively stress free time at home, I was able to deal with the work stress more effectively. This made sense to me. I spent months figuring out what to do. It was a tough time.

Anyway, I quit my job. I figured long term work stress was bad for my health. I work in a lower paid role now, but take no stress home with me at all. I am poor and happy, and have no regrets in destroying what many considered to be a successful career. It was destroying me anyway!

This friend also said to me that stress is made worse by the feeling of lack of control. By binning my job, and changing other aspects of my life, I have regained that control, the final and most important part of this for me is getting rid of PMO! It's been a 3 year journey for me, and I think I am coming to the end of it.

Scote73, making subtle changes to your life may help you regain that control. At the minute your stress has no outlet.I know it sounds corny, but when you finish work, fill your life with things you like. Maybe make more time for friends, socialising is a great stress buster. Perhaps a hobby, even better if it's with other people, especially if they don't work with you. You may find that work becomes tolerable again, if you are enjoying your time NOT spent in work. You know Ying and Yang and all that!

Whatever you decide you are going to do, don't do nothing!

DON'T DO NOTHING

 

@scote73 Hello. I'm 20 and just started working as IT Helpdesk support. I have same problem with stress, but this is also connected to my bad feeling in stomach. Since I started working, I'm vomiting on morning. I can't eat anything on breakfast. Can't eat scrambled eggs, milk with corn flakes, sandwich or anything else. I can only drink a tea and go off. When I arrive, stress is gone and I'm feeling just hungry. Maybe someone had that problem?
My advantage in this situation is this, that I'm on 2 more recruitment procceses and I think it's just a matter of time that I will change my job. I'm working in many places (outsourcing), have to remember many things like what's the passwords to systems, how it's builded, what was previous problem - something like this. When I'm coming home, I'm also thinking about next day in work. It's absorbing me - I don't like this. I like to go for a walk with my dog after 10 hours (2 hours of traveling to work daily). I put on my headphones, play my favourite music and just go while watching night sky. Yesterday an old woman hooked me in bus. I was typing report to my boss on notebook and she told me that I'm working hard, there's bright future ahead of me, but I need to prevail over this and prize will come in time. I need just to believe in win and this will come.
Scote, you need to believe that you're doing good. NoFap is just beginning of changes. It will cast on others aspects of your life. You will need to change them too. All your relationships will change, all your looks on religion, on people and many other things. If you're feeling bad, why don't you change this? We are having limited time here. Is this work really worth your lifetime? I don't want to tell you "to hell with this job, get a better", but just want to say that it's better to work on somethings, than thinking over them. First, go to boss and tell that you are feeling bad. If he's a human being, it's should be easy. I wish you good luck and praying for you and your success!

 

Stress is definitely a trigger for PMO for a lot of people. Whether of not this is a problem for you scote73, some realistic and gradual lifestyle adaptations could really help. Read the replies here. Take care.

 

@scote73 Hey I hope everything worked out. Did you stick with your job?