So, ive decided i cant trust myself. i need to work on not getting triggered or learning to control myself when i get triggered. In the mean time, i downloaded an app that lets me block websites from myself AND i turned safe search on. I blocked Spoiler: Possibly triggering text instagram, facebook, twitter, porn hub, xvideos, redtube, youporn, tumbex. I deleted snapchat since i had a pornstars premium. has anyone tried site blockers and did they work at least to an extent? My logic is like, its another obstacle id have to get by and hopfully when most vulnerable i wont try to find away around it.
I only use site blockers as an extra warning because I want to quit this myself, there will always be options to look at it.
I was also very suspicious about blockers, given that I know a heck of a lot about IT and I could easily bypass any block. That said I can recommend PluckEye, it doesn't prevent porn usage but it puts blocks in the road which all need to be broken through - this extra friction helps me a lot to avert using my precious willpower to avoid looking at porn. As for my laptop, well I haven't gone to bed with my laptop in my room for almost 10years! Now days I leave it in a locker outside my flat/apartment - so if I wanna look at porn on it I'm forced to get up and dressed and get my keys and leave, by which time I'm not excited by porn anymore.
I've been using FocusMe and it seems pretty good. There is a forced mode where you cant uninstall even with a password. Maybe someone with a lot of tech nohow could figure it out, but for me it is hard. I just block CommandPrompt, file directories, etc. But it has been a pain constantly trying to mess with it to make it perfect.
I don't use blockers but recommend Accountable2You. It blocks nothing but reports all internet activity to your APs and alerts them of anything suspicious.
My girlfriend is using something similar for me. If I relapse she's not going to yell at me like a child. But at the same time, knowing she can see everything I do online is extra motivation to stay on track and is helping to rebuild a feeling of openness in the relationship (we kept it mutual so although shes not a pmo addict i can see everything she does as well).
One word of caution on this arrangement: Making your SO your AP can be unhelpful, as it puts her in the role of mother/babysitter. This might be hard on your relationship. I have found that having a team of APs who are not my SO is the most helpful and productive arrangement in my own recovery. I wish you the best!