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Seeking advice! 58 days, and I've relapsed to PMO

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by sir fappanot, Apr 20, 2015.

  1. Apr 20, 2015 #1
    sir fappanot

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    For those of you who have been were I have I am now, I am seeking advice! After 58 days no PMO'ing, I have just watched PMO today, ending my consecutive 58 day streak.

    I made it this far by learning from others, and if someone has something insightful to share, I'd gratefully love to hear it.

    Thanks yo.
     
    sir fappanot, Apr 20, 2015
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  2. Apr 20, 2015 #2
    Warwick

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    Be gentle on yourself.
    You have done extraordinarily well with your 58 days.
     
    Warwick, Apr 20, 2015
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  3. Apr 21, 2015 #3
    Cooldude4

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    You have done well, thats fantastic.
    Now, Challenge your self bigger things. Also, I would suggest to track your time that you would need to invest in hobbies, interests etc. See the change and also the value you add to your self. That;s important
     
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  4. Apr 21, 2015 #4
    sirfapstinence

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    Don't think of this as a failure. If you move forward and get another long stream of 58 days you can look back and say I only PMO'd ONCE in 116 days. That would be no small feat and a HUGE achievement. We've all been struggling PMOing several times a day so this beats it by miles.
     
    sirfapstinence, Apr 21, 2015
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  5. Apr 21, 2015 #5
    crushurcravings

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    Going for that long is strong. Congratulations :)
     
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  6. Apr 21, 2015 #6
    Antoine24

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    Like people said here - Still love yourself mate. :) 58 days It's really good score but be careful after relapses you can easily go back to PMO streak... but if you made it so far it only proves that you are really strong so why you can't beat that?;) Good luck with your road!

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    Antoine24, Apr 21, 2015
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  7. Apr 21, 2015 #7
    Andrew0268

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    Exactly,

    I keep 2 main counters. 1 is a consecutive streak and 1 is a running total. If I see the consecutive streak reset at least I can fall back on the long term counter. Don't let a short term slip up mess you up. Keep one of each. Admit your failure but don't let it overshadow your success.
     
    Andrew0268, Apr 21, 2015
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  8. Apr 22, 2015 #8
    Dailydoer

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    Stay strong and don't let the chaser effect chase you! Don't go on a binge man! You've done an amazing job! Not many people come this far in the first place. God bless you, peace
     
    Dailydoer, Apr 22, 2015
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  9. Apr 22, 2015 #9
    Alloallo

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    I want to echo the above posts, 58 days is a victory! You haven't failed, you just passed the end of a major success and are starting a new one. Never let the slip up overshadow the victory!
     
    Alloallo, Apr 22, 2015
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  10. Apr 23, 2015 #10
    Andrew0268

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    Yes, Always get back on.... immediately, not tomorrow, not next week.... immediately after you make a mistake. That is when you truly win. I failed when I slipped up and let it last days or weeks. I succeeded when I got back on 5 seconds after I screwed up.
     
    Andrew0268, Apr 23, 2015
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  11. Apr 23, 2015 #11
    mjtx

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    Great thread, and I agree, it's all about progress, not perfection.

    Going fifty-eight days is no small accomplishment. Hell, I am still struggling to get to thirty days. By all means, don't use it as an excuse to binge, but also don't be too hard on yourself. Now see if you can make it past 58 to 60 or 90 days.
     
    mjtx, Apr 23, 2015
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  12. Apr 23, 2015 #12
    nomo

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    Don't look for perfection, look for progression and positive outcomes. You have achieved much of the latter.
     
    nomo, Apr 23, 2015
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