"Failure is a wonderful teacher" - What have you learned from your failure(s)?

I learned that the quicker I accept failure, the quicker I can move on from it and better myself. The ones who linger on the past are the ones who never grow. Whether it's their own self-esteem or something else, they allow it to get to them. And that single failure festers and rots and slowly destroys their insides...

Then there's the successful people in society. The ones who FAIL but LEARN from it. I always strive to be THAT guy!

 

Expect set-backs. Plan for slow steady improvements in your skills.

Don't put too much importance on the "counter". If the counter # is your only motivation, you will binge badly after you first relapse. The counter can make you feel like all your efforts were wasted.

Two books I would recommend are "Willpower Instinct", and "you are not your brain"

Good luck

 

I've learnt that my physical state heavily determines my mental state and willpower. The days where pmo is manageable are the days where ive worked out and slept well.

 

Love this. I know that I can do 22 days so my next target is 30 days.

I also learnt from failure how to motivate myself. Using phrases like its just one more day. Etc

 

thanks man I really appreciate the support.

 

I love the concept of "It's just one more day"!! Such a good way of looking at things.

What I learned from my mistakes:

- Never "test" yourself to see if you could watch P without MO, you start down a very slippery slope and that never ends well.
- Never think that I am over my addiction. I acted as if I was cured after 60 days and started MOing without any porn. Of course, now I'm back to my old habits and the ED is back again.

 

This is a great thread. I beat myself up bad after my last relapse. And I had a hard time getting back on track. Then it occurred to me that I may have gotten impatient with my recovery. I made it 90 days hardmode. I had grown and progressed in many ways. The thrill of achieving my goal was over. Then I got into a situation where I was trapped with an abusive person. When I got out of it, I felt like it had sucked the life out of me. And then I relapsed after over 4 months. Although I binged for a while, I learned from it. We can't expect superpowers and magic to happen because we stop fapping. I am deeply fucked up and I have a lot more work to do. I feel excited and confident this time. Not cocky. But confident because I feel completely whipped. I no longer want to fight PMO. I just want to recover. No matter how long it takes.