35 and Older Accountability Group

Thank you so much for the encouragement, it really means a lot.

 

I agree. When I waste time on Chatrooms and PMO I feel like a loser. I'm wasting my life. As I get older that feeling grows. I know what I want to do in the day. It might be chores or things to do with my family or reading a book or watching a movie, but whatever it is, I know it. And then I can destroy that list with Chatrooms.

How many things do you say you don't have time for? Don't have time to work out? Don't have time to learn a new skill? But do you spend more time with PMO than is needed for those things? That's how I feel most of the time.

 

Yes, I recognize that totally. I waste sooo much time, and then I complain that I don't have enough time...

 

So true. I actually had a physical reaction when I read this - immediate recognition and a little bit of self-loathing. Pit of stomach kind of thing.

This is highly inspirational - in a "don't do this" sort of way. It's a great reminder of why I'm making the effort to be better.

 

Speaking of self-sabotage.. Freudian slip?

I've noticed with you artifact that you tend to go in cycles of 8-12 days (give or take) no PMO, then reset, and another cycle. Maybe not exactly, but more or less. Maybe subconsciously you decide that it's been long enough. Wash, rinse, repeat? You know subconsciously that this pattern is something you can manage because it's what usually happens. And having 10 clean days to 1 not-clean day is not so terrible, all things considered. So that's what you stick with. Going for long stretches is scary and seems harder, so you avoid it. All on a subconscious level of course. Consciously, it appears that you are 'failing' at the end of each cycle.

Of course, this is all conjecture on my part. But I think it's worth taking a look at.

 

Just saw my ranking in the group. Glad to be amongst you, fellas. Am motivated to climb up!

 

hey guys, just checking in at the 4 day mark. Good week after some long reflection after my last relapse.

I'm grateful for this group to keep us all accountable. Here's a great video if you have 20 mins:

 

Feeling down today. Questioning sense of purpose and my relationship. The urge to M was very strong. I slipped and looked at some risque pics on my twitter feed. Thankfully, my screen time limit was reached and I could step away without M. will be a rough day. Hopefully I can get myself to go for a swim. That will help.

 

I’m checking in for Friday morning. I was in my front yard with my dog today and out of nowhere these hot girls rode by on their bikes in front of me (it’s summer time so you can picture what they were wearing). I looked, and then I found myself looking one more time (and that’s where I got myself in brief trouble). I quickly realized the blood was pumping down there; so I literally ran into the house and jumped in a cold shower immediately. That did the trick. Be careful of double looking at the eye candy.

 

Things like youtube and twitter and social media are dangerous as hell for potential relapse. If you don’t need them for work, then any chance you can just shut those accounts down and just focus on nofap?

 

You have to figure out for yourself if your reason to quit PMO is valid. But if you’re not sure, then I’ll give you a hint to help you: if your counter keeps on remaining at 0 then your reason is not good enough.

 

good to see you putting some days together again.

 

It sounds like you've hit the nail on the head. 'The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek'. You can do it man.

Thanks!

 

Checking in..

 

Anyone want to play some NoFap russian roulette? You set a goal:like for me, I’m at 10 days; so my next goal would be to get to 21 days. And if I can’t do it, and I PMO, then I get kicked out of this group of 20, and someone else takes my spot. Thoughts anyone?

 

I've said it a million times before but starting tomorrow I am going to try and get serious. I am going to try to participate more in our discussions. I've also messed around with meditation a little lately and am going to start with just a few minutes a day for awhile.

 

Great video. Thanks for sharing that

 

Happy Saturday. Stay strong this weekend, gents!