getting over the peak

DONT RELAPSE, and definitely DONT EDGE, this will make the, lets call it the Boss Urge, impossible to defeat. What helps is to completely drain yourself of energy (not sleep - important) by working out and then completely focussing on something you can lose yourself in like a movie or a project or book. Also talking to people or an icecold shower will help. As for a vision it must be personal, picture yourself with what you want most and convince yourself you have to giveup PMO to get it.

 

I believe if we stay strong for a period of time, we will enter flatline and be safe. Or alternatively, our streak gets so good we fight to protect it more, rather than giving up after just a week or so.

 

I agree with @Fullyawake. Before abstaining from PMO, I was abstaining from just porn for nearly 2 months. I never had a signficant urge past the 30 day mark, my previous record, because it'd be silly to throw away all that hard work for 10 seconds of pleasure. That is what I remind myself of about when I think about relapsing. Right now, I'm going through flatline and I don't even know what an urge feels like anymore.

 

I had a beginning of edge today. It was very quickly this mind trigger, i'm near 90 days and the ways that the mind goes to trick us is quickly.
I was talking with a girl on WhatsApp and i masturbate for 4 seconds, didnt saw any picture or video. But the horny feeling came. I got a good erection, very quickly, it was like i entered in stand by for 4 seconds. It was close to fail, but i resist. After the quickly hand in my pants, my body shaked a lot because i didnt continue.

 

Oh my gosh, ironic you say this because I just got past a MASSIVE urge this past Wednesday. This urge was a product of a wet dream I had the previous night. This was the worst urge I've experienced since the first week, it was battle from hell. I had to use every inch of willpower and inner strength to have victory over the mind. I fought like my life depended on it (which it does), and I came out on top. How do I feel now that I just got past that huge urge? Unbelievable. My life shot up like a cannon after I beat that urge. My aura has never been better, positivity through the roof, confidence through the roof, I have a I don't give a f*ck attitude now (in a good way). I have this feeling that nothing but good things are going to happen to me now. Before this urge, I was in and out of flatlines since day 13. I felt some progression in these things but not anything like this. I hope my recent experience helps you man. God is going to give you a test. If you are strong enough to pass the test, you will bear many fruits. The hard work and discipline will pay off 1000x, just be patient.

 

Absolutely. I find the first week is the toughest. Once something substantial starts to build you feel progress and a greater sense of pride and self esteem. You’re at 16 days and I’m at 17 days - let’s get through this together.