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Thanks for the post really insightful! It's amazing how little things give you hope back!

 

Wow!
Thank you for the post! I really like what you said about dopamine and the links you posted. I agree that soft-core imagry is just like porn. I is what has made me relapse numerous times.

 

Great help!!! Thank you for your support.

 

Most helpful post. Cleared lot of my doubts. The Action! Or not! link is also a must go through one. I was confused about a lot of things and those were making my journey very difficult. Thank you William for the post and helping.

 

" No one gets out easy, so, if you are not willing to get out hard, you are not willing to get out." I just like that statement.I have been striving to quit PMO but only to crawl back. After joining reboot nation, i have done 10 plus days and relapsed once. I have realised the only way out is not to reduce frequency of PMO but cut it completely. I am getting out hard.

My response:



Much love to any one who picks up this transmission.

 

Great post
I am quite a late addition to this thread. Its been up for almost two years but,better late then never.

 

This is old, I know, but relevant:

 

Great poem and video. Many thanks, Will.

This has been posted somewhere else before:


"Go all the way": that's the road that I decided to take, thinking that MO wasn't an option anymore. I know this questions comes and goes all the time, but I don't think that if you are here at NF, you should return to MO. In my opinion, you're not really quitting that way, just abstaining for a certain period of time, knowing that relapse is still an option. If you see it as an option in your future, you'll end up there eventually, you'll be carried away by your thoughts or for some event in your life, good or bad.

 

Thank you for educating me on all of this. I really thought I was turning gay or something. I don't know what to say but thank you.

 

Hi William

thanks for the conversation you sent me, your prayer, it helps. I will be doing a 30 day challenge to being, and then I hope to extend this to 90 days as you recommend, it wont be hard mode as I am married, but it will be mistly hard as I dont have much sex with my wife, so i will not O, unless through acyual sex with my wife. I plan to definitely overcome PMP and MO thouhg, step by step, first 30 days and then to extend that to 90 days.

How do i cope with the feeling of sexual excitement I feel down below, without a release? I know it is dopamine brian begging me, and withdrawals, must i just tolerate it and learn to kind of live with it?

My theory is that the body has got used to O on a regular basis and I am hoping my body can regulate itself to be able to not need to O on such a regular basis, as I feel a fullness building up down below, is this dangerous?

thanks

 

This was so helpful. I was suffering because I was too afraid of my discomfort, and the weight of urges, but now I see them as a mental and character gym to strengthen my mental muscle through accepting and welcoming discomfort with open arms. Thanks.

 

Great video!

 

I'm thankful from bottom of my heart Mr.William. You're willingness to help and push us through this phase of addiction is unparellel. This is certainly one of the or the toughest addiction in the world. The beginnings are the toughest as its difficult to push through dopamine enslavement with slight efforts. I'm working on it step by step and plan to never look back once i hit a streak.

No excuses , just action. Be with us !

 

@Evitisop23 yes the beginnings are the toughest but you can make it through. Just keep on and don't give up.

 

Thank you William and all of the contributors to this thread. I am so grateful to have come to a community where so many ppl are making a sincere effort to overcome their addiction to PMO. I can feel the sincerity of those who comment and am encouraged by those who have a long record of success. I feel strengthened by what I have learned in the past few days of reviewing this and related web sites, especially the bit about embracing the pain and working through it. I am committed to leaving PMO behind me forever, whatever it takes!

 

Hello Mates. Thanks for the kind words. There are little tricks to quitting the addiction. One is to have heroes who have pushed through the pain, pushed though the challenge, pushed on when people said it could not be done. It is important to find someone who has done it, whatever "it" is, and study how they did it, what they had to do to do it. I see some very sincere people on this forum posting "I can't do it". They can do it. It can be done. But it is not enough to want it. You have to need to quit. You cannot quit casually. Quitting cannot be a hobby. Quitting cannot be something that you do in your spare time. In the quitting phase, aka the hard 90, quitting must be who you are, who you define yourself as, it must be the person you are when you wake up, the person you are throughout your day, the person you are when you go to sleep. "Quitting" must be how you define yourself in that period. This message reaches about 99% of the people who receive it. About 1% tell me to go fuck myself. But eventually that 1% comes around. You will never make a truce with the addiction, and defeat it. There is no middle ground where you live peacefully with it, where you pick it up and play with it from time to time, like a puppy. You will destroy it completely from your life or... you will be its slave until you do. There is no easy way out. That is the nature of the addiction. There is only the hard, exceedingly difficult, way out. If it was easy to get out it would not be called an addiction. The addiction will attempt to stop you at all costs. Know that now, going in, because I promise you, you will know it before you get clean. Me? Almost two years clean. Me? I have lots of heroes. Here is a video about one. They told here "no", she told them "yes". If you are quitting the addiction, the addiction will tell you no about 1,000 times a day. You have to be ready to emphatically say yes right back to it, about 1,000 times a day. If you are going to quit this addiction, well, when it pushes, and it will, you have to be prepared to push back, and even harder. When it punches you in the gut you have to punch back, and harder. This is the truth.



Don't let anyone tell you you cannot do it. And understand, when you are telling yourself you cannot do it, it is just the addiction talking to you. Don't listen to it, it lies.

William. Broadcasting. I want everyone who reads this to take off their chains. And you, who says you can't do it. You can. You did not get here in 2 days. You won't get out of here in 2 days. Quit letting the addiction tell you what you can do. Instead, you tell the addiction what you can do. You define you. Don't let the addiction define you. You define you. This is how it must be.

Much love.

 

You wrote i tried nofap the first time and makes me happy that you still successfully are with it. Even though the first time your advise unfortunately did not help now it does =) i'm out more than 2 months now and determined to stay clean =)

 

Amazing video and advice! I love "you define you" and define myself as "quitting" until I'm free. Inspiring. Thank you!

 

Rewire http://www.lifehack.org/288159/infographic-tell-you-how-your-brain-works-and-how-train

 

Nice link @Evitisop23