I am on DAY 101 no PMO....What my problem is ,that When ever I see any beautiful women I get urges & lusty feeling... I have been struggling from it since last 101 days... But managed not to relapse.... I have gone 101 days but this thing is very depressing... because I cant watch any tv show or movie due to beautiful women being in it... I have been going in this streak and tried not to get triggered by every hot women.But everytime I end up having lusty feeling.....I am not going to PMO .. But dosent these lusty feeling cause same effect as Porn????
Use all of those pent up urges to find a woman in real life. What benefits have you felt? If you have felt an increase in confidence try approaching women on the street or setting up a date with a girl you know. All of that energy can be transferred into building a human connection with a cutie.
Dude! You've made it 101 days! "Urges and lusty feeling" hello, you're a man lol. That is what is supposed to happen, what is preventing you from talking to said women?
Yeah man get your fuck on hahaha. Now is definitely the time to switch from abstinence to the real thing. Focus that horniness into flirting and fun activities and you'll be having a great time in no time lmao
Leave women, I dont have confidence to have conversation even with men... very much self concious and nerverous in front of anyone
But all these days whenever I see any women on Tv or movie I get aroused very much.. And I think I I have nof made any progress because dopamine system would not have healed....
Social anxiety is different from the porn related issues. Big congrats on 102 days - wish I was there. I would strongly recommend joining some meetups, hanging out with people in zoom calls, just getting used to talking to people and being curious about what they have to say. The single biggest trick for making friends? Ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. You will probably find something in their responses that you share.
But.... the main reason I am doing nofap is self esteem and social anxiety issues... wont nofap help it ??
If your leg is broken, you'll never become a marathon runner. But when your leg heals, you don't instantly run marathons. You're free of a HUGE impediment that a lot of your peers likely face. Self esteem? You are one badass mofo for conquering your dick for 102 days. Be proud of that. Self esteem comes (in my view) from repeatedly overcoming challenges, until you believe in yourself as someone who overcomes challenges. You've overcome a big one, now pick another. Try to get to sets of 25 pull ups or one-armed push ups. Learn a language. Make eye contact and smile at everyone you come across (this one is GREAT practice). You can do it m8
Doing NoFap clears your mind of porn and it's harmful effects. However, you still need to go out into the world and do shit! @CenteredSoul put it perfectly. Literally just ignore your anxiety, go out, be stupid, and have fun. Pretend like you're a spy trying to be friends with someone or seduce them, and that it's not actually a social event lmao. Now is the time to live our life now that porn is gone! Also dude once you start having sex, a lot of these shitty feelings are gonna start going away lmao Do I have to have sex in order to rewire? Will stopping porn solve my problems? How do I know when I’m back to normal? Solo Tools Tools to Connect With Others
Yeah that's a tough one. I'm bad, I've been dating recently, despite rising cases. I have just been limiting my exposure to the high-risk people in my life. This is an excellent time to master skills and knowledge though! Won't it be sick to be 150 days P free when the vaccine hits?
@CenteredSoul @When All Light Dies I feel that lmao. I'm in the Bay Area in California, and the government is trying to keep shit all closed up. However, if our governor is going to inside dinner parties with a dozen people he shouldn't be around, maybe you should too. I understand that you could literally kill large numbers of people by doing certain actions nowadays, but there's a point where you can be safe to those who are in danger of dying but still live your life. I do this by staying at home the whole week, which is the time I get groceries, workout in shared spaces, and interact with the most people I don't know. On the weekends I go out and do fun shit, but only with other people who I know have the same risks of dying as me. Everyone should be safe, but no one should be taking on depression, addiction, or other diseases (many potentially fatal) when our own elected officials don't even follow their own laws. If you feel guilty about this stuff, I recommend just doing all your activities outside. I did an outside dinner date last week and it was great. Cases are spreading pretty much only though large inside gatherings or to at risk people through drawn out encounters, so being outside and not breathing into people's mouths really makes the chance of infection slow. Also idk where you guys live, but even though cases are rising exponentially in California right now, deaths are still decreasing.
Did you have social anxiety before you started PMO'ing? If so, I would look into getting therapy to make it better, it's a natural thing a lot of people struggle with. If not, you're probably in a flatline. Have you felt any benefits?
