How to save my 11 y.o bro from becoming a P addict

Does he have any hobbies?

 

What are those things exactly?

 

Yeps same story man, my little bro search the same things like i did

I would say turn your bro smart phone into the dumb one is the best things,, and also introduce him to exercise activities like karate, mma or else,,

Exercise is a good things to pass that high libido

 

sadly i can save my litle bro, because im not close enough to him and we fight a lot and i sorta let it go

So dont be like me man

 

What's your age and your brother's?

 

me 29 ish my brother 20 i guess

I found that couple years ago when he was 17 or something

 

Pretty big age gap... Even though you fought a lot... He surely would have seen you as a parental / fatherly figure , yeah? Keeping aside your differences you should have talked to him. Tbh i would loved to have a brother/friend who could have warned me a few yrs back

 

Why did he promise to not do it again? SHAME
hopefully you didn't add to it or make him feel worse than he does.

If you want to really help you lil bro, then you're going to need to have your own shame resilience and speak openly about your struggles, what heartache it's brought you, and basically be his accountability partner so he has a safe place to share his struggles and sideways thinking. I'm guessing you never had a safe place to explore puberty and sexuality. PMO hides in isolation.

My advice is assure him he isn't bad person for sexual curiosity. That's how men are made. Help him identify the pitfalls or traps of this compulsion. Ultimately he will be his own person and do what he wants to do, but at least he will have a non-judgmental open brother to do his journey with.

Best of luck.

 

I am the oldest of 5 younger siblings, and whenever one of them becomes 10 years old I start talking to them gradually about all that stuff, at the beginning I try to build a good and free talking relation with them so they feel ok talking to me about that stuff, then I start telling them that while they are using the internet some pages or adds my contain sexual stuff and they just have to close it or tell me about it, after a while I start telling them about how bad it would end up if the didn't close those tabs and that it would end up in messing with their brain and tell them about some people who got addicted to it and how bad it became, and the most important thing for me was to tell them that they can talk to me about anything, even if they fell into that and that i will always be by their sides and help them get out of it.

 

thats the point he didnt see me as a figure... I warned all the things that led me to this, from smoking, gaming, hentai and last is porn (which i quit em all except for porn that still in progres)

Yeah i would like to if my bro warn me the same thing's i warned to him,,,

So i hoped @iluvfreedom didnt only warn him but actually introduce him to exercise activities, it will be good if u can do it together tho

Sooner or latter ur brother surely will exposed by porn (it can be helped) which will affect his fitness level, i hoped when thats happen ur brother wilk choose to stay away from it

Another tips is to get some religion issue , he will not watch porn even tho his alone due to fear to god

 

I agree except for last point. Fear of God instead of devotion to God, would lead to him reviewing atheism one day maybe... I hope you get what i mean...

 

Teach him how make plans for each day, Obviously you can't explain him what is addiction and how it ruins One's life but if he learns how to fill the "what to do now?" gaps during the day and make it seamless, probably he doesn't have time for searching and playing with it.
Don't force him he is young and you should help him to develop his habits wisely instead of the brute force method.

 

Do those appear on google search with safe search on??