How to have a healthier view on women?

Read some books about how the brain of a woman works. You will learn that the woman brain works completely different then your own! You get some insights why woman make their choices and why they hate lines like ''i want to have her ready for sex everyday''! Woman do not want sex in the first place, they want to love! And these demanding things? Would you like a person who is controlling your life!?

 

Spend more time with yourself alone to figure out your own thoughts and truly take the time to understand the influence porn has had on your perception of women

 

Right! Ahaha as i was reading his post i was thinking damn does he want a partner or a sex slave?

 

HINT, HINT..

 

I agree with @Monkeybear. Try spending time alone just for a little while.. Pick up some solo hobbies like, jogging, shadow boxing, biking.. Do some soul searching.. You are more honorable than you seem.. I can feel it.. And realize at the end of the day that most women on this earth are a blessing to us men, fr.. We need to protect, cherish and love the ones who are worth it, like your partner might be one.. You just gotta find it and see it.. Good luck bro..

 

I try to think about it this way:

"Do I want to be a man who can't control himself and can't stop looking at good looking women on the street? Is that something a strong-willed, moral man would do?"

Good luck with your trials, stay strong!

 

If you stop touching yourself it wont matter what your girlfriend looks like. Please dont tell your girlfriend she needs to workout or have a tight body. You're doing irreversible damage to her self esteem. Projecting your high standards of beauty unto her is seriously fucked up. Apologize to her and tell her what you've told us. Maybe you wont get the revelation that you need but some serious effort into bettering yourself is the right move.

 

Hey I'm no woman nor an expert but I'm pretty sure they want both.

 

I would give anything to have this part of my head fixed!! if you find an answer I would love to hear it. I am back in therapy and this is one of my biggest items to work on. I can't even go to a shopping center any more, I get so manic my heads spins at times (that is how it feels) then I get angry because what I cant have them...or the way I think about them, why cant I think better of them. They have been objects for so long I don't know how to go backwards. Have been doing the avoiding places and people thing for a while but I can not do that forever. lets exchange real ideas..

 

yeah, i do this stuff to. Lost of nice chicks on school, so ill just loo away or i get an instant boner.

 

I see you are misunderstood here: people repeat what you know already - though the fact that knowledge doesnt help, is exactly your problem right? So if you ask for a technique that isnt nofap anyway, i highly recommend you meditation. There is really a lot on youtube, just go through it. Dont expect wonders in the beginning - but by time it will help. And dont simply "hate" your wishes: explore them. If you begin to look at yourself as simply wrong and someone with awful views on the female sex, it surely wont helping.

And btw. there are surely women who "like to be objectivated"; not judging it; just saying (yes submissive too). This isnt meant as a rationalization - but as a simple observation. The point is not that much if we do objectivate someone, but when! and if it is the only way we see that person: because lots of women love to be an object: in the right moment - for the right person - and when they can be sure: they are as well a person not only a body. This makes an essential difference

 

I'd love to learn why woman are glued to their phones so much. I work as a host some times in retail and its literally all I see every other day. I find it annoying that you say hi and they can't catch a glimpse away from their phones. Especially the really attractive woman.

 

Because the smartphone is addictive as hell. There are studies about that. And if she is attractive and she uses social networks the chane is high that she receives an endless stream of attention-likes-flirty-messages and bla. A horrible dynamic and all over the place