WHY YOU CAN'T QUIT -Leave the Shore

Angel of Light · Feb 22, 2021

I recently read a story about a woman whose brother-in-law(BIL) had been in prison and was just recently released. He served time for killing a man who was molesting her husband when he was younger. So when he came, she made a nice meal for him but he refused to eat. After a while, he requested for canned beans and that was what he ate. She found it weird but didn't really know what to do so she obliged.
This continued on for a while and she thought he hated her cooking so she asked her husband. Her husband told her that BIL was used to prison food and didn't want to eat normal food. A few years later, BIL was back in prison. His reason was that he found prison life more comfortable than the outside world.
A lot of us are like this woman's BIL we've been engaging in PMO for a long time that it has literally become a part of our lives. Now NOFAP has given us the opportunity to change our lives but we're still reluctant. We truly want to leave for good but we're not sure of how to move on so we have one leg in PMO and the other leg in our freedom.
We must be willing to leave the shore before we can cross the ocean. The only way to truly quit PMO is to envision what your life would be like without it and walk towards that vision.

RandomPerson1 · Feb 22, 2021

Angel of Light said: ↑

I recently read a story about a woman whose brother-in-law(BIL) had been in prison and was just recently released. He served time for killing a man who was molesting her husband when he was younger. So when he came, she made a nice meal for him but he refused to eat. After a while, he requested for canned beans and that was what he ate. She found it weird but didn't really know what to do so she obliged.
This continued on for a while and she thought he hated her cooking so she asked her husband. Her husband told her that BIL was used to prison food and didn't want to eat normal food. A few years later, BIL was back in prison. His reason was that he found prison life more comfortable than the outside world.
A lot of us are like this woman's BIL we've been engaging in PMO for a long time that it has literally become a part of our lives. Now NOFAP has given us the opportunity to change our lives but we're still reluctant. We truly want to leave for good but we're not sure of how to move on so we have one leg in PMO and the other leg in our freedom.
We must be willing to leave the shore before we can cross the ocean. The only way to truly quit PMO is to envision what your life would be like without it and walk towards that vision.
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I believe that everyone has their own reasons why their stuck in this addictive loop. I notice that whenever I am stressed, angry, alone or got free time I relapse. Instead of relapsing I am learning to control my emotions and when I got free time/alone I find something to do such as working towards my dreams. You just need to remove relapsing and fill in the gap with something else

Deleted Account · Feb 23, 2021

Eventually the most difficult part for me has become simply saying goodbye.

I truly do not feel addicted to porn any longer like I was. I can go 30-60-90 days with relative ease (this has taken years). But the hardest part is just finally being willing to let go fully. For some reason I still find value in it every now and then and just like clockwork it disappoints & lets me down.

WHMvsPMO · Feb 23, 2021

Angel of Light said: ↑

The only way to truly quit PMO is to envision what your life would be like without it and walk towards that vision.
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Unfortunately this is probably mostly true now since things are locked down mostly but in the past you may have more of a social group or community of people in recovery. I don't think we're going to find one already formed now and it would take a lot more effort to build it. A message forum is *no* replacement.

TheForsakeen · Feb 23, 2021

WHMvsPMO said: ↑

A message forum is *no* replacement.
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speak for yourself.

WHMvsPMO · Feb 23, 2021

TheForsakeen said: ↑

speak for yourself.
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I'm not saying there's no benefit, it's better than nothing and it's not like nobody else has voiced the concern with everything shutdown. I've said in other threads online communication can go deep, it's just really hard. Why are there official NoFap video support groups? Isn't it because there's this need and that's the next best thing to face to face?

But if you're going to take one thing out of context and misunderstand it as a dis against the forum instead of saying it's limited you're free to do that.

TheForsakeen · Feb 23, 2021

WHMvsPMO said: ↑

I'm not saying there's no benefit, it's better than nothing and it's not like nobody else has voiced the concern with everything shutdown. I've said in other threads online communication can go deep, it's just really hard. Why are there official NoFap video support groups? Isn't it because there's this need and that's the next best thing to face to face?

But if you're going to take one thing out of context and misunderstand it as a dis against the forum instead of saying it's limited you're free to do that.
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it was self deprecating.

Angel of Light · Feb 24, 2021

NamaClature14 said: ↑

Eventually the most difficult part for me has become simply saying goodbye.

I truly do not feel addicted to porn any longer like I was. I can go 30-60-90 days with relative ease (this has taken years). But the hardest part is just finally being willing to let go fully. For some reason I still find value in it every now and then and just like clockwork it disappoints & lets me down.
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You're absolutely right. Most guys on NOFAP were exposed to PMO pretty early in their lives (ages 10-20) and after living a decade or more like that have decided to quit. So it's hard to look at something that is basically a part of your life and say you don't want it anymore. For me reading the success stories here has helped me see the vast opportunities and goals a person can achieve without being held back by PMO.
All the best.

WHMvsPMO · Feb 24, 2021

TheForsakeen said: ↑

it was self deprecating.
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I don't understand how you got that from a comment about a medium of communication. It isn't about this community in particular, it's just the nature of a/any message forum vs. live meetings etc.

TheForsakeen · Feb 24, 2021

WHMvsPMO said: ↑

I don't understand how you got that from a comment about a medium of communication. It isn't about this community in particular, it's just the nature of a/any message forum vs. live meetings etc.
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it was meant as a joke, like i got so little social life that this forum is enough for me.
i find life easier to bear when i don't take myself too seriously...

WHMvsPMO · Feb 24, 2021

TheForsakeen said: ↑

it was meant as a joke, like i got so little social life that this forum is enough for me.
i find life easier to bear when i don't take myself too seriously...
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Gotcha, subtle..

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