Hey guys.. This is not my first attempt.. Right now dealing with depression due to other medical and relationship issues ( can't seem to keep a girl more then 2 months). I Need to stop smoking weed ( every day ) and stop masturbating multiple times a day.. Anyone with experience in stopping both.. When I smoke I tend to get horny.. I also throw tobacco in my joints so technically I need to stop all three.. Stopping them all together is not recommended.
I quit PMO and weed addiction at the same time. Day one for both was the same day. I am on day 117 now still clean from both and it has changed my life in incomprehensible ways. The only thing that I noticed is from reading other people's experiences on flatlines mine seemed to be much more severe than the average person. I think this is because I took away more dopamine from my brain than the average person does when they only quit PMO. It is not easy, but it can be done. I will never go back to either.
Yeah most people find it hard to quit more than one thing at a time, and sometimes that's even with people who are in a pretty nice support system - a inpatient residential program that might resemble a vacation experience and a sober living house to transition back to society. I've seen a lot of that in my area at least pre-pandemic because it's like a well to do area in general. Here's the thing though: I think a lot of what people do is dependent on their environment, in a passive way. That part is significant, because if you put anybody in an environment supportive of being sober, their chances of success obviously goes up. What doesn't get as much attention from what I've seen is when people play a more active role in their recovery. And people who have the odds stacked against them WITHOUT the benefit of the expensive residential treatment and support ARE able to get clean. I know one guy with mental illness and was addicted to meth, was homeless at times and he's been able to be clean for good extended periods of time. He's not someone with super willpower or high IQ, but he has been focused and though the community programs he can access isn't nearly as nice as the fancy ones others do, he's had comparable results. He also appreciates the support of community because some of those other guys don't even bother replying to a text anymore but he always responds and both tries to be encouraging and appreciates the outreach. So my general advice would be don't focus on how many things you want to quit in the long run, whether you quit one or two or whatever is up to you - but you have to look at your support system. I do think if the support system is good enough, it can be done. And to make the best use of it you want to play an active role in your recovery, value the mutual support instead of treating it/people as a disposable product just because you or your parents can afford it. (which of course has a parallel with porn and sex addiction)
In regards to this.. I really don't have a support system? I'm a student who's trying to to finish of two bachelor's then to do a double major.. My family doesn't know I use drugs to this extent.. So my support system is just me and my will power I guess.. I have other drugs near me but I'm not as tempted to do them like I'm tempted to do weed..
It's only limited to yourself if you don't look for more, but you are here on this forum so that in itself says you are looking for something. There are still a lot of addiction recovery groups, they're mostly online still and yeah there may be aspects of the philosophy people don't agree with but a lot of people who go also think that way - so you might as well check it out at least and you may connect with those people who are more on the same page as you are. On an individual level, it's also about learning. A popular HMO in this area has like an 8 week course about addiction as a part of their program, and people learn about dopamine and the brain etc. in a lot more detail than you're going to get from reading most posts online. Of course the important thing is to remember all that. Some of the kids who are from well to do families and such go on to pursue a degree or get some certification in addiction counseling so that information stays in their mind, but a lot of that information can be covered by insurance by people who are just getting recovery for themselves. So a lot is just what you do with it. Learning is systematic in an active way since you have to make sense of the information, having a support system is again passive - unless you put the pieces together yourself. The meth guy I mentioned may not be real sophisticated in thinking systematically but he knew to look for things in the community, a lot of times those supports are out there but you have to dig a bit and do the footwork to find out where to go.
You are depressed because not of porn because you can keep a girl for two months? Who said you have to be sad if you don't keep a girl for two months, heck who says you can't be hanpy only if you have a girl. You have to quit the mentality of sex is the best thing in the existence not just pmo my friend
