Hello all, been dealing with some urges today, probably going to channel them into making love with my wife, since she was talking about it earlier today. haha
I think on the whole you’re right @ctr , and thanks for replying. I noticed you were on hard mode too so not surprised you have considered this. You are obviously well informed- I’ve done a bit of reading too, and like you feel that not ejaculating is likely to be at most a minor risk factor based on current evidence. Exercise and a good diet seem to be much more important in preventing prostate cancer than anything else. Anyway, I have no wish to return to old ways, personally!
Relapsed again but straight back on here to get another streak going...made it to nearly 20 days so progress
Checking in. Day 31. I've worked out ~33% of the days, and seen great improvements in other areas of my life: I am more secure, and women find me more attractive. It's still har to resist the urges, though. Thank you for your support!
Thanks so much! Just in time for me to have to reset myself, I have into temptation this morning, but it’s okay I was not looking at porn and only thinking about my wife and looking at one of her pictures. Here we go again!
Reset today. Still, I've worked (and I'm continuing to work) on some of my deeper issues, and I'm feeling more positive about the future than ever. I really think I can beat this thing. Anyway, I refuse to stop trying.
@magvor - Yesterday you made it to 274 days, which is 9 months! Amazing! You are the 3rd recipient of the 9 Month Sash of Persistence! Thanks for being part of the group.
Hey all. Checking in. I've been making some changes. Being more positive with myself. Nothing good comes from beating myself up, but reflection about what is good and what makes me the most happy does.
I'm back to zero as of yesterday. I have started tracking my streaks and relapses as recommended by someone on this thread, I forget who but thanks whoever you are! It's like a form record so I feel like a racehorse now, if you know what I mean
I have a believe that everybody will get success. And the amount of success they get , is totally under their control. True peace and power to everyone .
Boy the temptations were strong today, but I didn’t give in, I only thought I wanted porn, but when I really thought about it, the need to stay clean was stronger.
Funny how you can say something like this then have a relapse with porn, here we go again! 34 days without porn is a good run.
Personal announcement: I order to escape the endless cycle of relapses and create some type of healthy sexuality for myself I have decided that masturbation is ok for me under certain conditions. These conditions are A. no viewing of pornography (defined as video or photos which show human genitalia or sex acts). and B. no porn-inspired/fetish/voyeuristic fantasizing. If I am able to meet these conditions, I feel that I have not "relapsed" in a way that is unhealthy. What I have been doing lately has not been working. I feel that the repression of all sexual urges in not the way to success for me. If anybody feels this is a violation of the group rules, I will remove myself from the group ranking but will continue to update the ranking and moderate the group. I am also considering allowing "Meeting my goals" and "No porn" as legitimate goals for group members. What do you think?