As people begin their journey into abstaining from porn, a new issue commonly arises: peeking. So let’s talk about this so that others can learn from us. What do you consider “peeking”? This is different for everyone, so what do you consider over the line? How do you combat your peeking? What strategies have you found successful?
Searching web sites of P and then get out of there fast without see much. Strategies: I just remember if i do that the chances of survives are 10%, so i don't think about it.
I had a problem today looking up erotica rather than full on p but it escalated and I ended up watching it. Peeking is dangerous
I consider a peek looking at a image or video and then exiting, like look fast and exit To combat peek is just don't do it, peeking is halfway to a full relapse and do PMO once again
I agree that the best thing to do is just not to do it! I define peeking as looking for any kind of sexually explicit material, whether that’s porn or not. So, for example, looking at instagram models that are dressed in bikinis or lingerie would count. Even scrolling through music apps can be dangerous as you can find sexually explicit album covers and music videos. I guess what makes it harder to just not do it, is that this sexually explicit material is everywhere. I’ve cut out YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Reddit, Twitter, etc., but I still find ways to peek elsewhere. I guess this is where you have to create strict boundaries and stick to them!
Peeking is where it all falls apart. You cannot let one moment of temptation in, because it becomes a seed in your mind that grows. 100% true.
Completely agree with everyone here. Work on not peeking completely. Also, work on just never going back to porn again after you quit. You can be 150+ days but if you look at p it drags you back slowly. Good thing is the more you abstain the more you it loses control of your mind, also if you're focusing on other things in life and making progress you soon stop thinking of pmo.
We know when we’re crossing the line and breaking our vow. We tell ourselves “you’re feeling bad, you deserve to feel good.” Ignore those voices. I guarantee you, you never regret not relapsing. But you do regret relapsing.
i know what you mean broski , youtube can also be dangerous , i watch youtube everyday for guided meditations , informative , spiritual & cheezy self devolopment videos LoL , everytime i open youtube the algorithim recommends to me videos of the same nature in the home page , but i feel you with the peaking not being just viewing some porn , but also prank , fashioun , dance / techno covers , certian interviews , movie clips , cartoon , anime , vloggers (if the presenter is a triggerring female LoL) , sexually explicit audio songs , music videos , and many other type of videos that's not officially porn but is heavilly sexualized for some unkown reason (government propoganda of enslaving the masses LoL)
So I just recently had a pretty terrible “peeking” binge. It started as just a scroll through some popular gifs, then moving into “safe” searching on google for models that I used to follow. Eventually I was staying up watching non-nude cam models. I guess the reason I’m sharing this is because the advice to just not peek is great advice. It leads to a domino effect that’s so hard to stop. It’s much easier to say no to it after you’ve built up a streak, but be mindful and stay away from temptation!
It’s 100% factual. Once you peek it escalates because you tell yourself just a bit more is okay. Next thing you are up all night with the bad habits again.
Is 'peeking' a technical term. Jesus said that if a man looks at a woman in order to lust after her, he has committed adultery with her in his heart. 'Lust' and 'Covet' in the 10 commandments are either the same or related words in Greek. When it comes to wives, the command is not to covet your neighbor's wife. It's right to have sex with your own wife, so that's okay. You can look at a girl in yoga pants that way and it's really the same thing, ethically, as looking at a nude woman lustfully. It's a matter of the attitude of the heart. Men in Saudi Arabia could do the same thing if a woman's wrist or ankle shows out of her burka. If you look at a nude woman without lust, you aren't committing the sin. But what is the point of looking at porn if not to look with lust? so don't justify that to yourself and flee temptation.
I don't even get this discussion really....peeking is cheating. So, it's all about what we can get away with or how close we can get without getting burned? No, the alternative to porn is NO PORN.
I think the point of this discussion, or at least the reason I wanted to start a conversation about it, is that “peeking” can mean a lot of things to a lot of different people. So, it’s kind of a grey area. I’m curious to know how others define their own peeking, and strategies they use to stop it. Personally, peeking is a tough thing for me to pin down. I want to stay off porn, of course, but I’m not a monk, I’m a sexual person. I’m not going to say that just because an attractive female is in the grocery store line and I decide to look for a bit is peeking, but others might. However, I know that non-nude social media was a big part of my addiction. So, although I don’t consider checking out non-nude social media pages a relapse, it’s something I’d like to stop doing as it is definitely still activating my brain in a similar way. So I guess my questions still remain. What do you consider peeking in your recovery goals, and how do you combat the urges to do so?
Ok, I get it....I missed the point of the thread. You are right, as with so many terms, people have different definitions. I have to be honest, I guess, I do push the boundaries, in my case with movies. They almost all have some form of sexual content, and some trigger me and some don't. Last night I started one about a woman who accused a man of date rape, and I shouldn't have, because it did create a trigger. I wouldn't have considered it "peeking", but I guess you could call it that. Our world of media and movies is a big problem, and they are just one more vice that's difficult to remove. In hindsight, I over-reacted and I think it's a worthy topic after all.
Completely agree. It seems like everywhere I look there’s sexual media. I can barely scroll through Netflix without seeing something. I try to stay off everything that’s overt, like I’ve mentioned above, but I still end up finding things that trigger me and make me want more. I’m trying to practice a mantra when I see something that’s triggering, “Acknowledge and move on.” Meaning, I’m going to see things that sexually excite me. Whether it’s in media or real life. So, instead of seeing it and panicking, I’m trying to acknowledge that the trigger was sexually exciting, but not to linger on it. It’s way easier said than done, however. I guess I feel like I’m crossing the line when I know the purpose that I’m absorbing a piece of media is because I want to be sexually excited. So if I’m scrolling through news articles in the hopes that I’ll see a trigger, I’m already crossing over into peeking.
