Chastity device or cage during recovery

It's a bit extreme. But tbh I don't see why it wouldn't work, just as long as your partner didn't let you out the chastity device for many many months. It would be a bit pointless if you could get your partner to just easily let you out it.

 

I actually went through extreme measures, that caused me by far the greatest success I have ever had with nofap, pornfree. I was on the SSRI antidepressant sertraline for 6 months, and this near completely shut off my sex drive, sexual functioning. It was unbelievable how bad the sexual side effects I experienced on this were. It was actually the reason I went off the sertraline after 6 months, because I couldn't handle not having any sexual release. But the main reason I went on the sertraline wasn't because of the sexual side effects, it was because I was needing something to help me with the mental health problems I was suffering from. But I will admit there was a part of me that did also want the sexual side effects.

I have been on a handful of SSRI's over the last 14 years, and they all caused me sexual side effects, but none caused me the severity of the sexual side effects that sertraline did. It was just unbelievable how much the sertraline shut off my sexual functioning, and this lasted the entire 6 months I was on the sertraline.

After the last 4 years trying nofap, pornfree, nothing has come anywhere close to the benefits I got from being on the sertraline for 6 months. Basically no sex drive or sexual functioning for 6 months. I am very aware of the benefits I experienced from this now, in terms of rebooting. It actually changed my thinking towards nofap, pornfree. Where now I believe if you have deep porn induced brain changes, the only real way you're going to heal is by never or hardly ever activating those porn induced pathways for a fairly long period of time. I used to think if you were mainly clean, and occasionally relapsed, you would still have success from this. But being on the sertraline for 6 months, and having close to no sexual functioning for 6 months changed my opinion about this.

It's messed up, but when you go on for years trying nofap, pornfree, and you aren't really ever getting any real success with it, sometimes more extreme measures might be needed. I can't see how I would of had the success I had with the sertraline any other way, as it literally near shut off my sexual functioning completely for 6 months.

 

I never used one but I understand that chastity devices aren't meant to be worn for long periods of time. If worn too long for too often it can cause erection problems I believe.

 

I don't know what a chastity device is? First time hearing of it.
The only thing my wife is in control of is the wifi password at home. I could easily log on to it and deactivate the parental guidance and then access porn but she changed the password because I requested her to.
That's pretty much it on my end. I also got rid of my laptop less than 2 weeks ago. I always used the laptop to fap to porn so without it I can't access it.
And on top of that there is no need to ask my wife for the password because I won't have a laptop to access the damn thing.

 

Fair play. But there is quite good filters, blocking configurations you could use these days, where you could still use a laptop, and wouldn't need your wife to password protect it for you.

A chastity device is literally a penis lock, a cage that goes on the penis and around the testicles, so you can't masturbate. Then it is padlocked, and can't be opened without the key lol

 

Whooaaa haha I wasn't expecting that. I guess first time for everything. But no, personally that will be going too far.

And regarding filters I've tried that method but always found a way around it. We can only try different things and see what works for us. Strategies are subjective. What works for me might not work for you and vice versa.

Are you asking for yourself or just a random thought you had? Hope you don't mind me asking.

 

No I use a filter, and have a good blocking configuration on my laptop that works for me. So that's why I was just letting you know there is other options other than getting rid of your devices etc.

 

And I appreciate that. I was letting you know that getting rid of my device is working so far for me. If that strategy of using a filter and a blocking configuration works for you then great.
All the best

 

Bruh

 

Take it easy. I did not make him feel like he is beneath me for stating my OWN opinion.
For someone who has never heard of a chastity device excuse me for being taken aback by it.
And I did say whatever works for someone may not work for others.
I suggest you read more clearly before ranting.
Everyone is different. Whatever you do to make you succeed in overcoming his addiction is from trial and error.
You try something and it doesn't work then try something else.
I'm addicted to porn heavily for 20 years and yet I found it strange that something like a chastity device is actually a thing out there. Did I explode on the person who wrote the post?
Again, read clearly before writing.

 

I use a chastity device sometimes.

It has absolutely helped me get through periods of extreme temptation!

If your wife is willing to be your key holder - even better. Do you have a particular device in mind?

 

I feel that with this question, one size does not fit all(no pun intended).

I personally would not do this, since I suffer from a femdom fetish, with one of the categories being chastity. I also am not in a relationship, so I feel that I need to reprogram my brain to find just regular girls attractive.

Overall, if you find it works for you, then do it.

 

Im single and have use chastity in the past. Even trough it prevents you from playing with your self, it doesn't prevent you from stimulating yourself and watching P en fantasy. It also gives you constant focus on your genitals, but not always sexual. It was an interesting experiment, but not the solution. In the end it needs to come from inside yourself.
In a relationship i see it more as a playfull thing than a solution.
You would make your gf or so responsible for abstaining, while it is your responsibility.

 

In my experience (I’ve owned 8 different devices), a chastity device can pinch and get really uncomfortable - it’s important to find one that fits!
I’ve had the best luck with steel devices - the metal won’t stick to your skin like polycarbonate.

Some people do wear them 24/7. I rarely wear mine for more than a few hours - just enough to get me through the urges. I try to use it as a last resort - and I always carry my own key, just in case it starts to pinch.

It’s a great tool and it really helps. But I see it more as a reminder of my commitment to recovery. As I have learned- it is possible to get off even while wearing one - and there’s a few times that I had an O while trying to put it on – clearly I had waited too long!

 

I would be open to trying it given how bad my relapses are like cannot stop for weeks on end

In reality though I am waking up earlier more consistently, taking cold showers and getting active on the regular outdoors moving my pent up energy before it explodes on me

 

I mean.. if you choose to as a man that's your choice, but it is pretty fetish focused from what I understand